This was in my high school and early college years, later on in life I was able develop romantic relationships with them and healthy platonic relationships. I’ll be upfront and say a lot of the times if a straight dude hates women vehemently, it’s probably because he’s not getting laid or able to form any semblance of a romance with a woman.

  • FidelCashflow [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    I guess the test for this would be to see rates of misogyny in areas where they have simar cultures but diffrent laws about sex work.

    Although I guess that could represent a difference in culture in it's own way.

    I known I would have been a much better adjusted young man if I had internalized women's bodily autonomy as being subject to their will alone. As opposed to the mess of signals most young men are taught about where it is a three way negotiation between the government, fashion magazines, and the phase of tbe moon.

    • queenjamie [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      I guess the test for this would be to see rates of misogyny in areas where they have simar cultures but diffrent laws about sex work.

      The thing is, it's not about just being able to pay for sex. Most internet incels (by this I mean the r/incel type guys who end up going on killing sprees) want women to have sex with them without having to pay for it. They know that they can just find a sex worker, but that's not what angers them. It angers them that the ONLY option for them (in their eyes) is to find a sex worker.

      • FidelCashflow [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Maybe. The types of angry young men I was/knew saw that line as a real barrier. not just the risk of getting arrested. (Do you get arrested? I don't even know.) If it was legal you wouldn't grow up watching men who do that being bad guys on cop shows you know?

        Either way I don't know how much of that principled opposition would still stand if there were safe legal and convenient sex work professionals to be found. I mean, they say that for sure thing. I don't know how much I trust the angry incell guy's self reporting about it.

        I think if the local metro area had a soapland or whatever I would have gotten over that phase much sooner. Same for the my the rest of my CPL adjacenct counter strike clan type friends.