99% of people are bad at video games, and that's fine because video games aren't really consequential. you're not inherently more pathetic than other people. you just currently have a lower emotional tolerance for failure because you've come to interpret the tiniest mistake as evidence of your irredeemable loserishness. you expect things that you can conceive of as simple to be easy to execute, but quite a lot of seemingly simple things aren't actually easy, and that includes the long, difficult process of emotional transformation and self-love that you and all human beings are capable of, given the right circumstances.
I have ADHD, which gives me ample opportunity to find difficulty accomplishing tasks that I see others executing easily. I don't feel like I'm good at much. All I can really do is not demand from myself that I achieve effortlessly, to make peace with the effort and continue ahead with it anyway, even if the rewards aren't immediate and obvious.
How old are you? I was kinda in this funk till I was like 28 and then I started getting
As someone who hasn't left the late -teens yet, this is encouraging
You’re not pathetic. I fit this description as well lmao. Ok maybe we are a little pathetic, but you are worthwhile and probably also have adhd or depression.
It's a complete myth that anything like an "adult" exists. At the very least, I've never met one.
ADHD Gang ADHD Gang
For real though, this shit sucks. It gets better with a diagnosis and meds (and coping strategies). But it still sucks.
Edit: As someone else pointed out, Dyspraxia could be in play. ADHD effects coordination and reaction timing, and can make me feel clumsy at times. But developmental coordination disorder can be bad enough that people with it can have problems just trying to tie their own shoes or get dressed, and that's orders of magnitude more debilitating than anything I've experienced.
Solidarity with anyone with Dyspraxia. While we're at it, solidarity with anyone who has any other type of neurodivergence, no matter how severe it is. And solidarity regardless if you've even gotten an official diagnosis or not. Also plugging /c/neurodiverse for people who don't know it exists.
At least you can follow this thought up with "and the underpinnings of our society seeks to continue producing failchildren just like me."
I would by no means call myself a rich failchild, but being able to put myself down for a semi-permanent-weed-induced-coma certainly does have its benefits.
If it makes you feel any better capitalism and by extension my neoliberal reactionary family are literally driving me crazy.
This level of self reflection is not childish. There is no arrival, anyone claiming to have arrived is prob still on their decedent starting block. Follow passion, you fucking rock
a lot of people in here are telling you about ADHD, which could absolutely be relevant, but
physical competence of a child
anything that requires skill is automatically out
serious solidarity from a Dyspraxic comrade on all that. It might not help much to know, but no one notices or cares about that anywhere near as much as you do.
The very recognition of the fact turns you into more than just a child. What divides a man from a boy is struggle, and even if you, by your own standards, aren't ready to call yourself a man yet, you are more than just a manchild.
