It's also not based on hair color. I still prefer dark haired people and tallness though. You are looking for bigotry in a place where there isn't any. I literally was denouncing 'superstraight' as stupid transphobic nonsense in my original reply. But because I am not attracted sexually to something (dick in this case, to be clear, not trans people) doesn't mean I don't believe people with dicks aren't-, or attraction to dicks isn't valid.
Not sure why you are getting so much hate. You said you are attracted to trans men, cis women, and post-op transwomen because you are attracted to vaginas. That’s your preference, how is anyone going to try to say that isn’t valid? People are attracted to lots of different things IME and shouldn’t be shamed for that. I support you comrade
Not just, but there are so many things that factor into any individual person's sexual attraction. People don't even find everyone within that "preference" umbrella to be attractive. Putting on my Ben Shapiro voice - let's say, hypothetically, that I'm only attracted to men. This doesn't mean that I find all men attractive, or that my genitals get all hot and bothered by someone just for being a man. Expecting people to experience sexual attraction towards someone (I mean, expecting this at all is uuuhhhhhhhhhhh) because they fall under this massive categorical umbrella is... pretty weird, and feels like essentialism.
And also, this discourse veers uncomfortably close to the right wing rhetoric about homosexuality being a choice. And that ain't great.
Same. If I get rejected because I'm a woman with a penis and someone doesn't like dicks, I'm not going to feel attacked because I'm not being rejected for being trans.
But if I get bottom surgery and a sweet new vagina, and someone else thinks I'm a woman with a vagina, they really need to examine themselves if they suddenly change their minds when they find out the vagina is a new feature. At that point, the only reason why I'm being rejected is because I'm trans. OR, maybe it's because I have a lot of body hair! In which case, that's fine by me. I'm not being singled out for being trans, there's plenty of cis women who like their body hair and some people don't find that appealing.
Tl;dr I think it's always possible to reject someone without being transphobic. So when someone says they're not interested because I'm trans, then they're being transphobic, because I guarantee there exists a trans person who they would otherwise find attractive.
Big brain take: maybe they're bi and find a certain set of genitals attractive? Like, they're into trans men (who haven't had bottom surgery), cis women, and post op trans women, etc.
But given the context it sounds like they're using vaginas as a shorthand for cis women...not a good look.
If they’re using vaginas as a shorthand for cis women though…no.
I am not. And I get the apprehensive response because of the amount of transphobia, but that doesn't make it bigotry to not like dick. If a woman or man has a vagina. I'm into that. trans woman included. But I find this policing of sexual preference really awkward and a bit weird. What I like in the bedroom shouldn't be something I have to defend. what the fuck.
Yeah I have at least 1 good trans friend and she has said that never in her life has she criticized someone for being exclusively into vaginas or dicks, or only into cis men or women. I think she’s even said something like why would you think you can force a preference onto someone? It doesn’t make any sense. She’s always done very well in her dating life since I’ve known her, so the idea that she or any other transwoman would scold someone for only dating cis women feels absurd and not something that actually happens in real life. Then again chuds making up things to be mad about shouldn’t be surprising lol
I prefer vaginas! See literally nobody cares. Why do they always pretend they are a victim of something that doesn't even happen?
Want to tell us about your racial preference next? This isn't a bit, don't bring this kind of 'acceptable bigotry' discourse to here. :gui-trans:
What the fuck are you talking about?
Sexual orientation is based on gender. Its not based on race or 'vagina' or whatever terfy nonsense has been put in your head by society.
'Preference' is TERF speak for discrimination.
Its not my job educate you, learn to be a better ally or don't post on trans topics.
It's also not based on hair color. I still prefer dark haired people and tallness though. You are looking for bigotry in a place where there isn't any. I literally was denouncing 'superstraight' as stupid transphobic nonsense in my original reply. But because I am not attracted sexually to something (dick in this case, to be clear, not trans people) doesn't mean I don't believe people with dicks aren't-, or attraction to dicks isn't valid.
Not sure why you are getting so much hate. You said you are attracted to trans men, cis women, and post-op transwomen because you are attracted to vaginas. That’s your preference, how is anyone going to try to say that isn’t valid? People are attracted to lots of different things IME and shouldn’t be shamed for that. I support you comrade
-Soulja
I don't know what word to use if not "preference". People have preferences.
Not just, but there are so many things that factor into any individual person's sexual attraction. People don't even find everyone within that "preference" umbrella to be attractive. Putting on my Ben Shapiro voice - let's say, hypothetically, that I'm only attracted to men. This doesn't mean that I find all men attractive, or that my genitals get all hot and bothered by someone just for being a man. Expecting people to experience sexual attraction towards someone (I mean, expecting this at all is uuuhhhhhhhhhhh) because they fall under this massive categorical umbrella is... pretty weird, and feels like essentialism.
And also, this discourse veers uncomfortably close to the right wing rhetoric about homosexuality being a choice. And that ain't great.
Same. If I get rejected because I'm a woman with a penis and someone doesn't like dicks, I'm not going to feel attacked because I'm not being rejected for being trans.
But if I get bottom surgery and a sweet new vagina, and someone else thinks I'm a woman with a vagina, they really need to examine themselves if they suddenly change their minds when they find out the vagina is a new feature. At that point, the only reason why I'm being rejected is because I'm trans. OR, maybe it's because I have a lot of body hair! In which case, that's fine by me. I'm not being singled out for being trans, there's plenty of cis women who like their body hair and some people don't find that appealing.
Tl;dr I think it's always possible to reject someone without being transphobic. So when someone says they're not interested because I'm trans, then they're being transphobic, because I guarantee there exists a trans person who they would otherwise find attractive.
I would go to super straight if I wanted to argue with braindead cissies.
You're so contrarian you cant fucking accept youre wrong no matter what. Im done, don't bother replying. Ive already reported this.
Big brain take: maybe they're bi and find a certain set of genitals attractive? Like, they're into trans men (who haven't had bottom surgery), cis women, and post op trans women, etc.
But given the context it sounds like they're using vaginas as a shorthand for cis women...not a good look.
I am not. And I get the apprehensive response because of the amount of transphobia, but that doesn't make it bigotry to not like dick. If a woman or man has a vagina. I'm into that. trans woman included. But I find this policing of sexual preference really awkward and a bit weird. What I like in the bedroom shouldn't be something I have to defend. what the fuck.
The problem is noone fucking asked. Its like randomly announcing you have a preference for white people.
Weird at best, dogwhistling at worst. Dont use Terf language ffs.
Thanks for clarifying! I think the added context here is important because like you said, it's a sensitive issue.
They're prudes and they feel attacked any time they see something they don't like.
Yeah I have at least 1 good trans friend and she has said that never in her life has she criticized someone for being exclusively into vaginas or dicks, or only into cis men or women. I think she’s even said something like why would you think you can force a preference onto someone? It doesn’t make any sense. She’s always done very well in her dating life since I’ve known her, so the idea that she or any other transwoman would scold someone for only dating cis women feels absurd and not something that actually happens in real life. Then again chuds making up things to be mad about shouldn’t be surprising lol
-Soulja