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  • WannabeBear [he/him, comrade/them]
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    5 months ago

    Life is shockingly good right now and idk how to feel about that.

    • I'm finally on the waitlist for top surgery (downside is that it's 1.5-2+ years before I'll be having surgery, if I want it funded by public healthcare. Also downside is they're suggesting that I reduce my BMI, which is just awesome with my history of dieting and disordered eating. kitty-cri-screm. I might go private, partly to avoid the waitlist (2 years is way too long), partly to possibly avoid getting annoying diet talk from my GP (the public surgeon sent her a letter asking her to reduce my weight, basically, lol)
    • I have a job lined up for after graduation, and came out to them about being trans. They were mostly supportive and cool, though a tiny bit boomer (I will probably have to educate them some, which sucks, but is also inevitable in my industry). One staff member did misgender me last time I was there, so next time I'm coming with a name tag with my manly new name (I mostly go by a shortened version which is fairly gender neutral, the full version is definitely considered a male name) and pronoun pins. Hopefully that will help. I need a beard.
    • I'm getting so close to being Out everywhere. I just need to come out to my in-laws and an aunt and uncle, so they don't get to freak out about finding out via the grapevine or social media or something.
    • I'm dating a cis woman who is married to a trans woman and it's SO WILD to be dating a woman in a straight way, and absolutely amazing to be dating someone who has already been "cooked" in terms of cis people being educated about trans stuff. She's so incredible at affirming my gender. The downside is idk how to feel about discovering this straight side of myself. It's kind of disturbing and makes me feel unsettled. Also I'm discovering new ways to trigger dysphoria, which is annoying. Like I can be with a guy and not wear a binder and if I feel his flat chest on my tits it's kind of just neutral. But feeling someone else's tits on my tits is like. A big reminder that I have tits, and very unpleasant. So I have to wear a binder all the time with her, which sucks because I already bind way more than you're supposed to. But overall this new relationship is very fun and good.

    Idk why I used bullet points for such massive paragraphs. I think those are all the good trans news I've got going on.