When I'm comfy, I have no problem expressing femme or at least non binary, and people affirm this, but when i'm uncomfortable, if I'm really done to the nines and there's no mistaking my presentation - i come off as a bitch - but if i am in normal-ish clothes - a femme top and blue jeansx or something - i just get misgendered and coded masculine.
It takes so much work for the cis world to recognize me, and I feel that too.
I am genuinely inwardly feminine, but I was alive for almost three decades before i started transition, so I have just under a decade of acting femme, in my early toddler years, and in the five years since i started this journey - in between is decades of living as a 'boy', and a 'man', and that coding is still more or less the default "server offline" behavior - when I have nothing else, i retreat into the little stoic stern sadboy shell I spent 28 years hiding in. I hate it :|
Omg ikr. Im only like 7 months into my transition. Otherwise I was pretty good at being a cishet guy, well except that I was miserable. But yeah it takes so so much work to be seen right, and it's a total crapshoot for me. I think I need to come out to live 100% as myself but I don't really wanna come out until I'm at least passing as a trans woman most of the time. IDC about being clocked as trans though
When I'm comfy, I have no problem expressing femme or at least non binary, and people affirm this, but when i'm uncomfortable, if I'm really done to the nines and there's no mistaking my presentation - i come off as a bitch - but if i am in normal-ish clothes - a femme top and blue jeansx or something - i just get misgendered and coded masculine.
It takes so much work for the cis world to recognize me, and I feel that too.
I am genuinely inwardly feminine, but I was alive for almost three decades before i started transition, so I have just under a decade of acting femme, in my early toddler years, and in the five years since i started this journey - in between is decades of living as a 'boy', and a 'man', and that coding is still more or less the default "server offline" behavior - when I have nothing else, i retreat into the little stoic stern sadboy shell I spent 28 years hiding in. I hate it :|
Omg ikr. Im only like 7 months into my transition. Otherwise I was pretty good at being a cishet guy, well except that I was miserable. But yeah it takes so so much work to be seen right, and it's a total crapshoot for me. I think I need to come out to live 100% as myself but I don't really wanna come out until I'm at least passing as a trans woman most of the time. IDC about being clocked as trans though