I’ve been on an unintentional break from hexbear over the past 10 months since the redesign broke it on my phone and school started. But I have a new phone now, so what’s been happening? Are we finally blocked by everyone except lemmygrad? Any new struggle sessions? Fill me in!

    • Moss [they/them]
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      5 months ago

      What was up with that I only ever paid attention to their posts in the megathreads and they seemed pretty chill

      • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]
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        5 months ago

        They had 7 pages of modlogs on them. Also on the post I talk about starting to go into AA for alcoholism, they did a "well acktually" on AA instead of showing any support.

          • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]
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            5 months ago

            Not well friend. I'm still drinking less, it's not totally dictating my life, but this breakup has been rough. Been with her since I was 19 and I'm 23 now. I relapsed on Friday, but plan on going to a group with my sobriety coach on Monday so that'll be good

            • corgiwithalaptop [any, love/loves]
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              5 months ago

              Don't beat yourself up, relapse is nothing to be ashamed about, just part of the process. Wishing you well, and proud of you! Hope Monday is beneficial Care-Comrade

              Feel free to hit me up if you ever need!

            • Alaskaball [comrade/them]MA
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              5 months ago

              What corgs said, just keep committing willpower to putting down the bottle and you'll steadily go longer periods without drinking until you reach your goal. You've already come so far from where you were and put in so much effort, so don't even think for one minute that any stumbles are anything other than speedbumps on your journey towards sobriety.

              Just remember anytime you get knocked on your ass it's always okay to take a minute to sit there and process things before getting back up and trooping on.

              • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]
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                5 months ago

                I appreciate it a lot. Sometimes it feels like I'm going to be stuck like this forever, but it's really helpful remembering that this doesn't have to be forever. I really appreciate the support

      • AernaLingus [any]
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        5 months ago

        Same...not the first time a user whose posts I've enjoyed has gotten banned and probably won't be the last. I guess part of it is that I don't really post anything of substance so I'm unlikely to come into conflict with even the most combative posters, and I somehow manage to miss most of the struggle sessions even though I spend a good amount of time on Hexbear (not that I'd participate in them, but I don't even see them)

        • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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          5 months ago

          The first year or so of ChapoChat was leagues worse than this. We kinda had our own Great Purge for a while, and then the site culture stabilized.

          • AernaLingus [any]
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            5 months ago

            I've actually been here since basically the beginning (besides the Discord lifeboat), so I do remember the struggle-sesh-a-day era. Glad we embraced TC69 thought and purged all the transphobes (among other things).

      • thelastaxolotl [he/him]
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        5 months ago

        Also a few months ago he was removed from all his mod positions for sharing dox info about a user and then doubling down on it not being doxxing, so it was kinda a matter of time

        • take_five_seconds [he/him, any]
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          5 months ago

          i thought u were the mod that banned Pluto from all thier comms, my mistake

          edit: wording was sloppy

          • LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves]
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            5 months ago

            I wish, I took down their posting in /c/drugs though because listening to people who haven't even smoked weed yet talk about what does and doesn't work for recovery is shitty. I only ban people in /c/traa for blatant shittiness.

            • take_five_seconds [he/him, any]
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              5 months ago

              well then i rescind any cool points i gave u earlier, i'm sorry but i'm sure you understand. you still have all your usual ones though so nbd.

              pluto was a bigass dork, i was surprised he got modded rly quickly

    • dannoffs [he/him]
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      5 months ago

      Operation "get Pluto to read some fucking theory, literally any theory" was a failure.