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  • DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them]
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    3 months ago

    You shouldn't brush curly hair anyway, it destroys the curls and makes your hair frizz. Try using a broad comb in the shower, to apply the conditioner(one that moisturizes a lot), and oil on your wet hair(really massage the oil in). Maybe more structure, and more wheight will keep them bound to gravity.

    Drying them without a hairdryer also helps keep the curly structure(towel wrap and time, but close to head should mybe be dried with hot air, cause your skin doesn't like staying moist for a long time)

    Great tip: Go to a good hairdresser(those are sadly often hard to find, it's like with car mechanics) and ask them questions about how to care for your hair(Ideally while getting styled, because it's a nice affirming experience).

    The curly spirally hairties are better for your hair btw.

    I got taught by my current hairdresser, back when I was still an egg, but only after previous hairdressers gave me useless advice.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      3 months ago

      niko-wonderous

      I had noticed that brushing fluffs the curls out, I didn't know you could do anything about it! A broad comb... I do have a decent moisturising conditioner already, what sorta oil should I be massaging in??

      I do already avoid hairdrying usually, I always towelwrap and wait. (This process takes like two hours bocchi-cry ) I do need a good hairdresser, but I'm pretty broke lol. "Curly spirally" hairties means scrunchies, right?

      I never considered asking hairdressers stuff, that's so rad.

      • good_girl [she/her, they/them]
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        3 months ago

        I can't stress enough how much a wide toothed comb helped with keeping frizz somewhat manageable as another curly girly.

        Checkout the curlyhair comm on reddit, they usually have good recs.

        As for oil, as someone with high porosity 2B-2C sometimes 3A hair (leans closer to wavy), I had decent success with Jojoba oil as it's very light and has similar properties to sebum. I also really like using Tsubaki Oil and though I'm not entirely sure it's doing anything for my frizz, it leaves my hair incredibly soft.

        Also i find tying my hair up in a bun overnight keeps it more manageable in the morning.

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          3 months ago

          Duly noted! I am gonna make changes to my haircare goin forward. I have long been tying my hair up overnight cuz it tangles sooooo badly if I don't...

      • DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them]
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        3 months ago

        Honestly, it's most important that the oil is good quality and gets absorbed by the hair, instead of just leaving it oily. I think most hair oils that are not the cheapest available ones are probably fine, you could do some research online for your local market.

        I have these gummi spiral/helix hairties. I guess it distributes the force better.

        Hairdresser is also a once every six months affair for me. To like cut the tips and stuff.

    • Chronicon [they/them]
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      3 months ago

      close to head should mybe be dried with hot air, cause your skin doesn't like staying moist for a long time

      slightly OT as my hair isn't curly but how do you do this? (drying the scalp without drying all/most of the hair). I've always felt like I couldn't get anything dry without spending a loooong time with the hair dryer and basically drying most or all of my hair. I know for a fact this is making my dandruff worse but I don't know how to deal with it short of always blow drying my hair or cutting it short (not likely)

      • DerEwigeAtheist [she/her, comrade/them]
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        3 months ago

        Honestly I am also struggling with that, my hairdresser showed and demonstrated me a diffuser attachment to a hairdryer(some broad head) that sllows one to to use it without destroying the curls. You press that on your head without too much heat. I don't have that so I don't have any practice, and my explanation is from memory, but it worked on me in the hair salon, and she said you can get them for cheap.