i mean i don't wanna look straight up like a dude per se, i think i'm just trying to find a butch masculinity that both looks good and doesn't make me dysphoric
I've found that i feel a lot more at ease when i seperate gender presentation and gender role - i like to present more in a femme way, while dressing like a kinky goth nightmare still makes it appreciably queer, and also frightening enough to annoying dudes. But that's not necessarily at odds with being a butch lesbian. You don't need a buzzcut and a flanell shirt for that. A friend of mine recently told me that butch is about how you connect with a tough, powerful kind of queered femininity, and given that she told me that not too long after i pulled her in by the straps of her dungaree dress to kiss her, i'd say i get that big dyke energy across quite well nowadays.
i mean i'm very much into the flannel ngl (though def not the buzzcut, though i have considered an undercut in the past)
but it's taken me the best part of a decade since realising i was trans (2017 to now) to really come back around to accepting that i like suits and watches etc. and trying to incorporate that
trying to figure out masculinity when transfem is quite hard tbh
i just want to look masc but also get she/her-ed consistently
Hm, you're like the inverse of me. I don't mind getting he/him'd as long as I look like a she/her.
i mean i don't wanna look straight up like a dude per se, i think i'm just trying to find a butch masculinity that both looks good and doesn't make me dysphoric
I've found that i feel a lot more at ease when i seperate gender presentation and gender role - i like to present more in a femme way, while dressing like a kinky goth nightmare still makes it appreciably queer, and also frightening enough to annoying dudes. But that's not necessarily at odds with being a butch lesbian. You don't need a buzzcut and a flanell shirt for that. A friend of mine recently told me that butch is about how you connect with a tough, powerful kind of queered femininity, and given that she told me that not too long after i pulled her in by the straps of her dungaree dress to kiss her, i'd say i get that big dyke energy across quite well nowadays.
i mean i'm very much into the flannel ngl (though def not the buzzcut, though i have considered an undercut in the past)
but it's taken me the best part of a decade since realising i was trans (2017 to now) to really come back around to accepting that i like suits and watches etc. and trying to incorporate that
I still don’t get the watches thing 🙄
why do you hate the things i like
why do you like watches so much?
i think they're pretty and cool and i like the mechanisms
weeeeeeeeeeeeeell there's this one lesbian lumberjill who makes videos about chopping wood
I loooove her
yea
gender tbh
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