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I came out in the mid-2000s and being trans is still a pretty big unavoidable part of my life. Being "finished transitioning" was a highly desirable state in a lot of trans communities back then, but for like 90+% of people it's a fantasy and for the rest it's a dangerous place to be that could be shattered at any moment.
Like, increasing visibility of trans people and modern internet has made "deep stealth" something you would need to be unbelievably brainwormed to attempt.
My partner is cis (real cis. The kinda cis where you interrogate your gender and come out thinking "nah, being a guy kicks ass actually"). Most of my friends and all of my family are cis. I will never not be trans.
Cis++
My bf is more cis than yours.
Anyone who has had an egg bf im shambles rn !
Oh no, I've had a whole bunch of those too.
+1 on that. I try not to be harsh and quick to pass judgement, but as someone who did it for a while, all it did was make me lonely and sad and make the worst transition related decision that I'm still working through
would not recommend
So I see a lot of people (or at least some people I guess) talking about how they always pass in public and whatnot. Is that different then what you are talking about? Because if you pass, and just never mention it... that seems like something a lot of people could do. (as long as I have not been misled about how many people can actually pass one day
would not be surprised). I guess your partner would probably know... but I'm not sure I understand why you think its a fantasy for 90%+ (even if its not actually desirable). Or maybe I don't understand what you mean by super stealth. I know that you know more about this topic, obviously.
I agree that it definitely feels like it would stick with me too. But idk, I see why people would want to "move past being trans", especially with how much trauma that can come with.
Also I didn't realize you'd been out for that long, that's awesome!
There's "I pass to the strangers I interact with on a daily basis, maybe even my friends don't know I'm trans" and there's "nobody will ever know I'm trans and I will take this secret to the grave." The first is extremely achievable, we're gonna make it girlies, but the latter was what so many people were interested in back in the day.
Maybe "finish transitioning" isn't the concept I'm going for here... My body has done basically all the major changes that I'm going for so maybe I'm "finished", but back then the talk was all deep stealth and "disappearing into the woodwork" and there was this emphasis not just on passing, but also essentially not being trans anymore - cutting off everyone you knew before, pretending that you're cis if anyone suspects anything...very self-harmful way of living imo.
This mega is a good mix of babytrans and oldheads, adult transitioners and
youngshitspeople who transitioned in their youth, it's wholesome as hell.Hmm, yea that makes sense and does sound really toxic. Treating being trans like a dirty secret is not good.
It is, I really love the mix here. I really can't imagine a space where its all people exactly like me.
Hey I love our young transitioners
They aren't shits.
I used to be a youngshit, but then they changed what young was. Now my young isn't shit, and what's shit seems weird and scary to me.
It'll happen to you too.
(As someone who came out as a teen in college, It's rad as fuck that more people are able to transition younger and with family support. Youngshit is just the one bit of tttt wordpoison that I find too funny to give up. It's like, a weird compliment, tinged with jealousy. Powerful.)
lol.
It is really funny, and I am envious of them
and you, and most people tbh at least a little bit. I just don't want anyone transitioning younger to feel weird I guess, especially since I feel like I heard one of them say that. Very rad though.Almost everyone wishes they came out earlier. It's a pretty universal trans experience shared across ages.
I guess that's probably true.
Better not to think about it, or I'll get sad and dysphoric. Thanks for explaining to me.
Interestingly, I'm glad I didn't realize I was trans earlier than I did! I was like 27, partway through grad school, had good health insurance and a supportive environment (including the best partner ever, love that guy), my parents couldn't say shit, and I'd already spent years living as a woman, interrogating what womanhood meant to me, before deciding I didn't want it. (Don't want manhood either, my gender is "no thank you, I'm good".)
Sure, I maybe could have avoided some pain and awkwardness if I'd realized I was trans sooner. On the other hand, as cool as my parents are, I don't think they would have let me transition as a kid and that would have been a whole different level of hell I don't think I would have dealt with very well. And given the conservative area we lived in, the bullying would have been off the charts, and I was already bullied. No thanks.
Also, I kind of like the empathy and understanding of women that living for so long as one has given me. I know from personal experience what it's like to be a woman in a male-dominated profession, and if I'd transitioned earlier I wouldn't have had that same experience.
I'm glad I've transitioned, I'm much more myself now, but I don't mind having lived 27 or so years of my life as a woman, it was alright. A mask and a performance, yes, but an enlightening one that usually wasn't too constricting.
I feel that a lot actually. I grew up in the 80s and 90s, transitioning as a kid would've been outright impossible back then unless my parents would've moved the entire family to the Netherlands or smth. That was the only place where that was a possibility back then. And i seriously struggle to think of a way i could've dealt with knowing that i was trans in the early 00s. Like, i could see this working out in my favor if we're talking some time travel scenario where i go back knowing all that i know rn, but if i had to navigate the nightmare levels of medical gatekeeping that existed back then on my own, without prior knowledge, at a time where my sexuality automatically made me inelligible from receiving any gender affirming care, my life would've just been constant unsolveable dysphoria with no way out.
Trans healthcare before informed consent was commonplace was soooo fucked. I'm glad my first therapist was willing to lie about "Real Life Experience" for me.
Informed consent still isn't commonplace outside of the US and Canada, btw. I still had to get letters from a psychologist to access any gender affirming care, the barriers are just lower now.
Same, I knew I was different, found out from the crying game basically..that similar people to me existed then spent the rest of the 90s trying to avoid the transphobia
I've seen you mention it a few times, what is the crying game?
It's a bad 90s movie that got way too much traction and sparked a ton of transphobia through the 90s.
It's a prime example of a shock twist surprise transgender reveal, plenty of them going back.. Ace Ventura parodies it.
Are you not also a "youngshit"?
(Holy fuck I hate this brainrot)
idk, probably. I can buy booze though and fully went through T puberty so
not like I have my shit together any better then was I was a teen though.
I dunno if puberty factors in, like I did not fully escape it and people still call me that lmao. Shoutouts to not having your shit together though ✨
This is probably just my age talking but I thought escaping puberty was the big thing. Maybe I am actually a youngshit myself :)
Thanks I am struggling ✨
We struggle together