Society has given you those cues and it's something you have to work through, it can be tough. Not everyone goes through the same level of hardship and some people are more sheltered or come from a place of privilege so it can be difficult to gauge life experience and what affects an individual.

I grew up poor with a lot of abuse on top of autism and everything else, this shaped me and my perspective in how I viewed people and outside influence. I also grew up in a conservative place that made self expression dangerous.

There are people who don't have that kind of oppression forced on them or to a far lesser degree and come from a place of privilege so their perspective is already difrerent to what I experienced. So it can be easier for them to feel safe if that makes sense because they haven't had to deal with it.

I'm not going to assume you have had it easy, because we don't and I know my experience isn't universal either. Don't feel bad because you still care to some degree, sometimes it is good to be wary. Just try not to be hard on yourself about it.