NTAH, that really sucks. Maybe I’m reaching or projecting, but I imagine she could be ADHD herself? Bc it’s genetic. It seems like a lot of the time ADHD mothers assume they are neurotypical and put a ton of burden on their children with their impatience and forgetfulness. Meanwhile they will hardly be proactive or consistent themselves. “If I have to do something I’m busy and will get to it eventually. If I think you should do something you’re a bad person for not already having done it.” The expectations on you are too much, I’m sorry. Parents also often project their own shame or regret on to their kids.