Hi comrades, want to give you all an informal update on the discussions around the site's misogyny problems that've been happening over the last several days. I wanna make sure you know that the admin/mod team has seen all of that discourse and we've been actively discussing solutions in the matrix mod chat. We're taking this shit very seriously and acknowledge that we haven't used a heavy enough hand on misogynistic rhetoric. As some of you saw we nuked that cheating thread from a couple weeks ago and handed out temp bans to the most egregious offenders. Idk how that was allowed to run it's course but we apologize for that oversight. We're going to do better.

We've come up with some ideas for how to improve this part of the site culture and we want to get suggestions from y'all as well, since the alarm was sounded on this by our beautiful c/traa posters to begin with. Our ideas so far include:

  1. A zero-tolerance policy towards any even remotely misogynistic/patriarchal posts or comments, as too much has slipped through the cracks on that, establishing a clear protocol for bans for violating rules against misogyny, and ideally tracking repeat offenders in a way that makes deciding a course of action easy when they reoffend.

  2. Uphold TC69 thought by starting up a book club (and hopefully more to follow) on feminist theory and encouraging mass participation, particularly from the he/him's on the site. "The Will to Change" by bell hooks has been suggested by multiple people as a great starting point but please feel free to suggest any other works.

  3. Relaunching /c/menby with a trusted educated mod team and a specific focus on countering mainstream narratives about masculinity, relationships and sex that breed reactionary, patriarchal attitudes

  4. Encouraging [namely femme] participation in /c/womenby and taking steps to revitalize that sub as an excellent source of discussion on feminism and intersectionality

  5. Holding another mod drive to get more folks into mod positions in our communities who can help weed out reactionary attitudes

  6. Encouraging users to use the report button often on any post that seems even remotely sus, with the promise that no one's going to be punished for "report abuse" for reporting posts in obvious good faith

Please let me know your thoughts on the above or any other ideas you have for making the site better, safer and more inclusive for our femme comrades. Once we've fully hammered out plans and updated policy we plan to make an announcement post highlighting these changes for the whole userbase. Thank you all for being here and being who you are feminism trans-heart

  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    2 months ago

    Idk, I mean the thread has been sort of painful but scrolling the modlong like "che-smile L bozo..." is pretty fun.

    • Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them]
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      2 months ago

      certainly does soothe my synapses. it's just kinda like, wow, these guys were right here the entire time, huh cringe you know? like accidentally rousing a nest of ants. bit of a rollercoaster, but obviously this needed to happen.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        2 months ago

        We don't wanna be in situations where you can quote the SCUM manifesto unironically aubrey-pain

        But uh, men Idk. One of the things keeping me at arm's length from leftist stuff before bearsite was that it seemed like misogyny and also queerphobia were big problems a lot of the time, so sadly I'm not shocked. Sticking my hand into the ant's nest with a neoprene elbow glove on.

        • Anvil_Lavigne [she/her, they/them]
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          2 months ago

          nah it just so happens that this kinda stuff is a constant reminder of the writhing mass of brainworms puppeteering the husk of someone i used to love with all my heart what-the-hell

        • MusicOwl [comrade/them, sie/hir]M
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          2 months ago

          I have encountered so much irl misogyny and queerphobia from talking to ML’s. All cis he/hims, ofc

          Was so disappointing.

        • Nakoichi [they/them]
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          2 months ago

          In addition to my long repressed feelings of transness shit like this also really makes me not want to be associated with manhood.

          • frauddogg [null/void, undecided]
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            2 months ago

            shit like this also really makes me not want to be associated with manhood.

            💯💯💯💯💯💯.

            tfw I tried committing to a stance of "look being an ex-man, I'm not tryna assume the worst of a man I will likely never know anymore bc at this point ain't no one going to give anything that so much as resembles a man any kind of leeway" and then I get paid back for it by encountering like 200 misogynists.

            I'm so sick of the gender warring bullshit but dudes just won't fucking learn; which means the shit just won't fucking end. Ion't want it.