guess which one i don't have!

  • Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    10 months ago

    I am terrible with names to begin with so I just call everyone "dude", regardless of gender. That includes my wife, father, etc.

    • Cromalin [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      ok i'm not going to remove this but i need you to understand why people in the transgender comm might not be pleased with this attitude

        • TheCaconym [any]
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          10 months ago

          You've got like ten people answering you kindly and you decided to just double down, eh ?

          See you back when you've done some thinking ralsei-wave

          • Cromalin [she/her]
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            10 months ago

            i don't want to be too defensive of them but they did do that before most of the responses came in if you look at the timestamps

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      10 months ago

      Kinda cringe. I love "dude" and say it a lot because of brainworms, but I am pretty careful with referring to people by it. It has both a potentially unpleasant sound AND is gendered.

      • Cromalin [she/her]
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        10 months ago

        yeah, there's one transfem friend i have who calls me dude and i call her dude and that's just like a thing we do, but if someone else does it it really raises my hackles even if i don't always tell them

        • ashinadash [she/her]
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          10 months ago

          Getting called "dude" by a random and just looking at them real shitty-like instead of saying anything.

    • Alch_Fox
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      10 months ago

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