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For me the answer was cognitive behavioral therapy. I read the book Feeling Good by David Burns, which is basically a field manual for CBT, and it pulled me out of a spiral I had been in for years.
DM me if you want a PDF, I know I've posted it on this site before somewhere. Come hang out in /c/mentalhealth if you don't already. Love yourself& know that you are loved comrade :meow-hug:
There's also Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, whose name will appeal to people here, which is similar to CBT but works better for people with like ADHD and other stuff (apparently). There's an app for it that's also (apparently) good but I can't personally vouch for it as I'm too lazy to use it.
Have you tried putting on a shit eating grin and holding up an imaginary wine glass to the make believe camera every time you have a flare up?
This may sound weird but one thing that helped me was trying to get into the mentality of “this doesn’t help anyone, even if I do legit suck beating myself up over it accomplishes nothing.”
It helped me realize that I don’t have forever on this earth and wallowing in the things I don’t like about myself eats up time I could be using to have fun and enjoy what time I got.
It's a really good idea to get off the internet, exercise, and also find something you like that you can actually focus on and grind. Stuff like that deprives your head of mental space for nasty thoughts. Also, I don't know you, but is your self hatred maybe related on social issues? Like, does it maybe in part start because you feel inadequate at a social setting?
For what it's worth, CBD oil helped me with this. It helps "turn off" my anxiety for a day or two so I can focus on fixing whatever is stressing me out without having to juggle the paranoia or sensory overload that I get with the whole shebang. Shit's expensive for what it is, though.
Also, I had some bizarre anger/impulse control issues the morning after the first time I tried it, but that may just be me.
Probably not the best place to ask. They say exercise helps with self esteem. If you feel self conscious about it, that goes away after start doing it a number of times.
I try my damnedest to fix the parts of myself I hate. I've had low self esteem for all of my teenage and adult life until the last few years. I've always been out of shape and overweight. I finally started working out and dieting to get in shape. I started working on changing my behaviors that I didn't like. When I see some trait in other people that pisses me off I try not to ever let myself do it. I still do things that I dislike and I'm still not as fit as I should be but the fact that I'm trying and not just hating myself and doing nothing about it changed my entire outlook.
I dunno. Our brains are sacks of meat that are tricked into thinking with electrical impulses.
It sounds like you need to find some time to develop some parts of yourself that you're proud of. And also maybe get a shrink.
Setting short term goals has helped me through a lot of self esteem issues. This past month I’ve felt like a lot of my friends around me are moving way faster in life than I am (having good jobs that they like, being in relationships or already engaged or married) and I felt like shit because of it. So I decided to pursue creative efforts again and start writing a treatment for a short film, something that I’ve done in the past but took a huge break from because my anxiety would always get in the way.
For me I guess it’s learning to not compare myself to others and what they’re doing and focus on me and how I can learn to be happy and enjoy life. Easier said than done but I believe in you and you definitley aren’t alone in this.
Have you tried crumpling into a ball in the corner of the living room and crying for 30-90 minutes? Crumpling into a ball in the corner of the living room and crying for 30-90 minutes always works for me.
In the shower works, too, but you eventually run out of hot water and hate yourself even more.
I would suggest learning more about and practicing Buddhism or perhaps some other religion. It helped me to gain a sense of purpose in my life.
