Nobody replied "us"
Fine. :angery:
:trump-anguish: we love our beautiful mods don't we folks! Absolutely the bestest around ❤
How or why would you subject yourself to that, like actually braver than the troops shit
Oof, I don't blame you either, I'd have to imagine you saw some weird ass shit in your modmail lmao
There's already smash on the tv in the background, twitch emojis seem like they wouldn't be that odd of a discussion topic at that party
Someone said "poggers" after a KO and rather than just move on from her visible confusion it needed to be explained
She gonna use her smash brothers skills to hit him with that down+B
That ended exactly as expected. Also is that Smash Bros. on the TV in the background?
If I remembered correctly it was a combo of people giving garbage if not borderline creeper dating advice, and dudes have existential crises over whether it was misogynistic to have enthusiastically consensual sex with a woman they have mutual attraction with.
So yeah like most relationship discourse in leftist spaces.
People go down this weird rabbit hole where they realize we live in a society and therefor basically anything they do can make them culpable in some fucked up system so they decide to do nothing.
Seriously I encountered some guy on tumblr once who basically decided to never leave his room, never consumed new media, and only ate rice and beans.
Look either get a truffle pig and go live in the woods or get off the pot dammit
you say you hate society, yet you live in a room located in a society eating rice and beans produced by said society. Curious!
I guess the idea was that was the closest they could get to not participating in society short of either offing themselves or going full Unabomber, or getting a truffle pig and having some rich failson bring you groceries once a week.
I'm basically at this point, but it's a lack of self-esteem on my part. I figure anyone interested in me has misunderstood the situation and I'd be taking advantage of them.
While it's a misguided thing to obsess over, it honestly isn't as weird as it sounds if you combine being aware of systemic misogyny/patriarchy with anxiety issues. Particularly if someone is generally prone to obsessive shame or has OCD or a similar type of anxiety disorder. Hexbear probably isn't the place to sort through something like that though and the dating comm definitely still seems like it was a bad idea lol.
whether it was misogynistic to have enthusiastically consensual sex with a woman they have mutual attraction with.
But what if there's an imbalance of power by any metric between the people hypotetically participating in the secs? Dating a person of different height than you can maybe be problematic
Someone once got really pissed at me at a leftist meeting cuz they learned 28 year old (at the time) was dating a 23 year old. Apparently 23 year olds are basically children and a guy who’s “almost 30” is way too old.
The age gap between my parents is 8 year btw.
This was me, except I was the younger person lmao. I was in my early 20's dating a women 6 years older than me, some weirdo kept asking if I was being abused and shit
:jesse-wtf:
When I was 24 I hooked up with a 35 year old woman a few times. I don’t think big age gaps are inherently abusive if both parties are fully formed adult. Yeah 30 year olds shouldn’t be creeping on 18 year olds but honestly once you’re solidly in your 20s I feel like if you wanna fool around with some older people that you’re fucking business.
The worst part of dating an older woman is when you go down on her and she says "be a good girl for mommy" in an Lady Dimitrescu-esque voice which causes you to instantly develop a mommy fetish and then you can never love anyone of your own age ever again. That's why age gaps should be illegal
Yeah lol. Like I said in a previous comment, I was over a foot/30cm taller than them, so that should even out the power imbalances according to terminally weird creeps who thank dating someone significantly taller than you is "problematic". (Yes these people actually exist)
:lady-doge:
Doesn't really work for my situation though
Uh, what about shorter dudes with a thing for taller women?
I’m totally NOT one of those FYI….
And what about dudes in general who have a thing for taller, strong, women?
So middle-schooler-heighted adults should be forced to not date tall people? I agree because I want there to be taller and taller people so my kinesiologist friend has an ever increasing flow of people with posture problems.
Lol I'm 6'1 (185cm) and the person I was dating was around 5ft or less (152cm). They were also like 6 years older than me though, so according to weirdo creep infantile logic the power imbalances should even out.
I think it was skewed to your side cuz you could easily put her on a high shelve and basically imprison her.
The average height of women in my country is 158cm/5'2 so yeah I've been significantly talker than every women I've dated. It's pretty cool I guess, I dunno really
and dudes have existential crises over whether it was misogynistic to have enthusiastically consensual sex with a woman they have mutual attraction with
Damn I wonder who that possibly could have been
Kinda poor taste to make fun of someone who is no longer here to defend themselves, no?
All I said was I could tell who they were talking about. Considering all the gross infantilizing stuff he always said about women, leaving it at that is in impeccable taste.
Post a lot, basically.
I don't really recommend it. Not because of anything specific to this site; same shit at reddit, twitter, etc. Being this online is unhealthy.
Yep. ime my online-ness has always been in direct proportion to my mental health.
Not to be that guy. Wouldn't the thought of performing the masculine gender role causing distress be considered gender anxiety? That is some egg emotional traune right or am I wildly projecting.
Maybe, I have know a few coder types to share this emotion with me. So it could go either way in that reguard.
I have accepted that I suffer from emotional numbness and will never be able to love or feel being loved, so there is no point in even trying to get involved with anyone. What about mental health care you say. I live in the US. Mental health care is the equivalent of paying someone 300 bucks tell you to go fuck yourself for having mental problems
Nah they'll just tell you to try CBD or some whatever snake oil is in vouge now
From my experience, Doctors exist to prescribe bills and shove you out of the room as fast as possible.
Yeah I shouldn't be so glib.
I know some people who have had the same experience with therapy as you. I'm glad it has worked for you.
I am consistently supprised we dont have shade tree therepy.
You know like how guys will chill outside an autopart store and just work on cars? Or I guess like lucy from peanuts. That shoudl be a thing.
Hit or miss is not statistically worth it to me. I have tried multiple times and I have found that everything in this shit hole of a country is designed to keep you working or drain you of cash, doctors are no exception. I already am forced to work 50 hours for the liberty of being alive, I have no interest in wasting any of the precious non work hours I get on a 25% chance that talking with them won't make me want to kill myself
c/dating was hilarious. I wish it became the new c/main, but unfortunately that is now c/chapotraphouse
I never looked in that comm, what was in it/why did it get shut down?
an old admin made it as a joke & then i somehow gt added as a mod. Any1 asking actual dating advice was fine, bt we removd hornyposts & weird shit. Used ma shitpsting voic 2 keep th tone lite. othr admins corctly locked th comm bcz it wz a :dumpster-fire: .
Oh no :ohnoes:
Is kaka birb doing all right? I'm worried for them now.
I'm not that online, this is the first time I'm hearing of this. What happened?
We've had wreckers trying to start shit all day. I'm not gonna call you one cause honestly shitbird's day drinking shtick was already worrying, but I'm also not gonna go ballistic without more info. If you genuinely were harassed I hope this is resolved in your favour.
Nah you had the right idea. This is a wrecker account. The specific strategy right now is apparently to target active posters and harass them off the site
Can I ask how y'all know that? The images didn't seem faked.
(I should probably also apologize for the earlier comment, which I'd tried to quickly delete, but you found it first, so bravo for that.)
@birdshit was made alongside another wave of wrecker alts, has a name clearly playing on @Shitbird’s during a time where several prominent users have reported new accounts harassing them. They also barely posted and posted short innocuous things for about a week before getting involved in a site drama discussion, which is typical behavior. And when most people are banned on a brand new account, they either leave or disengage and create another account. Coming back to continue arguing isn’t help anybody out.
So on the off chance that they are not a wrecker and are reading this: just disengage and move on to another post and we’ll have no way of knowing the account was linked. I’m sure we make mistakes here and we try to make it simple for good faith people getting caught in the crossfire to reintegrate with little friction. This is why we always say that any efforts to make the line between genuine concern and shit stirring less blurry is appreciated.
I am reading this and I am not a wrecker and I'm supposed to just "move on" from getting creepy messages as soon as I signed up here?
Yes. If they continue from a new account feel free to report the post, DM me, or DM another admin. You’re currently registering while a wrecker is spamming new accounts. Like I said, you need to disengage
Not really Zuma is a corrupt AIDS denialist that deserves to be in prison. Also RET is just a tool the ANC use to get votes in modern elections, no actual substance (other than corruption)
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Wreckers are the best pen testers. What an edge case lmao
Like they pretended one of my deleted comments was a defense of vaush, and proceeded to go on an anti vaush rant in response, to try create an argument. Weirdest shit I've seen so far
No worries I know you would never defend V*ush. If this wrecker isn’t actually a small team of feds the amount of time they’re putting in is really sad.
lmao imagin spendin all day tryin 2 manufactur struggl seshuns on a smal websit lik a losr
thnx it wz a fun bit / comm whil et lastd. props 2 @VolcelPolice and @Lydia u the rel mvps.
The smash character select screen on the tv in the background is just
chef kiss
None of us here are qualified to go outside or talk about going outside
I went on a date
Oh woah I guess you’re the expert then
