Longtime lurker, occasional poster! Trying to come out of my shell because I'm starting to question my gender. I never felt like I fit the mold of "guy" and it's always something that I've had to try to do. I always felt awkward in all ways in school.
Lately, I'm really considering the possibility of being trans. I buy women's clothes, I try to talk and move in a slightly more feminine way. I was on a website and there was a page titled "I hope I'm trans" and seeing that in writing led to this moment of "Oh fish, I think I wish I were a girl!"
I'm trying to figure out who to talk to about these things. People in my life are pro-LGBT, but I'm just generally distant. Like, how to open up about this when I've just never been open. It's a challenge.
Thats great!!! 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ I happy to see more people join this community!!! 🥰🥰🥰 Im kind of new to this whole “being trans” thing so i cant really offer much in the way of advice sadly 😔😔😔
i think i started with a lot of writing before i had my thoughts together enough to broach the topic. it's a lot of mental work to basically redefine yourself and work toward cultivating an identity that feels both new and like it was always there. hexbear is definitely a great place to talk things out if you're hesitant to bring it up in real life though, we have a great queer community. everyone is very accepting and generous with online resources to help you along the way
So when I was figuring things out I stumbled across this essay and I think it is a very helpful way of looking at things.
https://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/17/the-null-hypothecis/
Cis is treated as the null hypothesis. It doesn’t require any evidence. It’s just the assumed given. All suspects are presumed cisgender until proven guilty of transsexuality in a court of painful self-exploration. But this isn’t a viable, logical, “skeptical” way to approach the situation. In fact it’s not a case of a hypothesis being weighed against a null hypothesis (like “there’s a flying teapot orbiting the Earth” vs. “there is no flying teapot orbiting the Earth”), it is simply two competing hypotheses. Two hypotheses that should be held to equal standards and their likelihood weighed against one another.
Longtime lurker, occasional poster! Trying to come out of my shell because I'm starting to question my gender. I never felt like I fit the mold of "guy" and it's always something that I've had to try to do. I always felt awkward in all ways in school.
Lately, I'm really considering the possibility of being trans. I buy women's clothes, I try to talk and move in a slightly more feminine way. I was on a website and there was a page titled "I hope I'm trans" and seeing that in writing led to this moment of "Oh fish, I think I wish I were a girl!"
I'm trying to figure out who to talk to about these things. People in my life are pro-LGBT, but I'm just generally distant. Like, how to open up about this when I've just never been open. It's a challenge.
Thats great!!! 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ I happy to see more people join this community!!! 🥰🥰🥰 Im kind of new to this whole “being trans” thing so i cant really offer much in the way of advice sadly 😔😔😔
i think i started with a lot of writing before i had my thoughts together enough to broach the topic. it's a lot of mental work to basically redefine yourself and work toward cultivating an identity that feels both new and like it was always there. hexbear is definitely a great place to talk things out if you're hesitant to bring it up in real life though, we have a great queer community. everyone is very accepting and generous with online resources to help you along the way
So when I was figuring things out I stumbled across this essay and I think it is a very helpful way of looking at things. https://freethoughtblogs.com/nataliereed/2012/04/17/the-null-hypothecis/
it's a great essay but freethoughtblogs is down and i can't find it backed up anywhere
thankfully the wayback machine has it still, but it's really a shame the original version is gone
Oh, that is a very recent development. Two months, or so, ago it still worked. What a shame.