Sometimes I wonder if things like the hexbear bouncing cat emotes are a bit twee and cringe, but then I see the aesthetics the other side has run with...

  • Ideology [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    I like the cat emotes. I want more girly stuff on here to balance out the edge. :cri:

    • TrashCompact [none/use name]
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      2 years ago

      Maybe I have too narrow a definition of "girly", but I think that emote's aesthetic is more "cutesy" than specifically "girly".

      I fully support both to balance out the edge and appreciate cute things especially, such as :kitty-cri-texas:

      • GrafZahl [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Decades of trying to reeducate myself about what I'm allowed to like, leave it to Chapos to bring me right back to the start :agony-deep:

        • TrashCompact [none/use name]
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          2 years ago

          Hey, if it's not hurting anyone, you're allowed to like it as far as I'm concerned :heart-sickle: . I was just raising a point about taxonomy.

          There's nothing wrong with women liking "boyish" things, right? So men liking "girly" things should be fair game too!

          • GrafZahl [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            Thanks for the kind words, much appreciated. No worries tho, I didn't take it in a bad way from you or from Ideology. Nowadays "girly" doesn't mean much to me anymore, just reading it made me think of teenage years. It took some navigation to get away from the circles where it meant much at all.

        • Ideology [she/her]
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          2 years ago

          I was in a rush, there's just a shortage of anything not-cishet-dudes in the emoji picker. Cool enby stuff and fem/soft boy stuff would be just as much of a pleasant change. There's lots of ways to be any gender but "man in suit" is what we can post normally. :glucker:

          Edit: I was also attempting to push back on the idea that the blobcats are cringe, because there's a general trend in pop culture to view anything cute or "for girls" as more cringe than edgy "boy" stuff. Pop culture would view them as "girly" even if queer people and allies like us wouldn't. I don't think it's very fair and erases the ability of non-masc people to express themselves. Most of the time when I post, I feel like I have to de-emphasize feelings I have irl to kind of fall in line with norms that enforce emotional distance and a certain ironic machismo. It's only when I get deep in a comment thread where I start sounding like myself.

          @TrashCompact

          • GrafZahl [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            You are right of course, and that's honestly how I interpreted your original comment too. I was playing up the unfair reading of it and should have probably communicated I didn't mean it so serious. Or I should just drop the sarcasm in the first place lol

            • Ideology [she/her]
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              2 years ago

              Is fine, I'm just tired. Selling your labor to capitalists is a fuck.

          • TrashCompact [none/use name]
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            2 years ago

            Reading that I asked myself "do I sound like myself here? how do I present?" and, after spending a while thinking about it, I just don't know. It's a little disconcerting, but probably not as much so as actively pretending to be someone else.

            • Ideology [she/her]
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              2 years ago

              It's pretty normal to have masks or sociolects. I think the main thing is how you feel about the parts of yourself they bring out or suppress. Like I act a little different in queer threads or comment threads than I do responding to people I suspect are cis/straight or white because letting your guard down in the latter instance feels more vulnerable.

      • Ideology [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        I shat that comment out on my break, oops. My main point is that 90% of our emojis are dudes HARD POGGING. Sometimes I just want to feel cute without being flirty.

      • Ideology [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        Nah, I don't see them as a fem thing, was more pushing back on the "cute things are cringe" idea in the OP.

  • Flinch [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    I wish all fascists a very drink yourselves to death :spongebob-party:

    • DinosaurThussy [they/them]
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      2 years ago

      The part of me which is an addict is hurt by this comment

      The part of me which was raised by my alcoholic bigot of a father is like :spongebob-party:

      • D61 [any]
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        2 years ago

        The part of me which was raised by my alcoholic bigot of a father is like :spongebob-party:

        comedian Dave Anthony has entered the chat

      • Flinch [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        Addiction is a hard struggle to deal with, friend. If it's any consolation, I'm glad you're still here to :spongebob-party: with us.

  • Kuori [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    bouncing cat emotes are a bit twee and cringe

    :disgost:

  • Grownbravy [they/them]
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    2 years ago

    We didnt take a dead meme and pass it through a woodchipper of hateful ideology to then babify it.

    We proudly embrace what we like and as the maker of these three emotes in particular, :meow-tankie: :meow-anarchist: :left-unity-4: It fills my heart to see them used so much here

  • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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    2 years ago

    After 20+ long years

    Ok I’m gonna just assume they were victims of fetal alcohol syndrome and started drinking from birth. I cannot rationalize a 40+ year old talking like this

    • BatCountryMusicFan [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      You don't know enough white midwestern boomers. An entire fucking generation of overgrown children.

      • WideningGyro [any]
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        2 years ago

        This probably isn't a boomer (not that generational analysis isn't dumb), but probably a gen x'er. Hell, it could be someone on the old edge of the millenials. The youngest possible boomers are 58 now.

          • American_Badass [none/use name]
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            2 years ago

            In this context, I will say I have never seen nor heard any adult speaking like this, haha. My deepest sympathies to you if you know people like this.

            • BatCountryMusicFan [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              For Halloween a few years back, a married couple that are childhood friends of my mom did a couples costume: the lady stuck LED lights on her chest, the guy put on deer antlers. They did a "deer caught in the headlights" bit all fucking night.

              That's the kind of white boomers I know.

              • HornyOnMain
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                2 years ago

                that sounds like it would have been funny for all of two minutes at absolute maximum, stretching it out over an entire evening sounds absolutely torturous

                • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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                  2 years ago

                  stretching it out over an entire evening sounds absolutely torturous

                  But what if that is the bit?

            • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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              2 years ago

              I’m surrounded by them and not a single one has ever done anything like this either (as far as I’m aware lol)

            • BatCountryMusicFan [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              I will say that white midwestern boomers are usually pretty jovial. It's just that their sense of humor is incredibly reactionary and if you call them out on it, my god. They throw temper tantrums that put toddlers to shame.

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    8 days ago

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  • Awoo [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    I think this is the only outlet the right has for dropping toxic masculinity and actually speaking about their problems in an honest and unguarded way which is the reason it has stuck around despite being just a niche subreddit that was successfully killed while it was still pretty small.

    • PasswordRememberer [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      silence, fed. brand new account account posting about violence and inviting people into off-site chats.

      lol as if labor law is real. burn down a family dollar near you!

      https://hexbear.net/post/211236/comment/2675199

      honestly this is the reason i am now okay with political violence. why I just cannot give a shit about random lib lives anymore.

      https://hexbear.net/post/211236/comment/2674754

      so does anyone have an not-super-tracked resources on 3d printing guns?

      https://hexbear.net/post/211276/comment/2675528

      so i guess im in favor of burning down tim hortons now.

      https://hexbear.net/post/211293/comment/2675400

      gotta kill all the racists if you want your reconstruction to have sticking power.

      https://hexbear.net/post/211219/comment/2674682

      does this have groups/private threads, or are we going to matrix or signal or something?

      https://hexbear.net/post/211236/comment/2675473

      Death to America

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    8 days ago

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  • D61 [any]
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    2 years ago

    :meow-tankie: :party-cat: :cat-vibing: :gigachad: :ironicat: :cat-com:

    • ElChango [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      :cat-vibing:

      This is how I imagine my life after communism has replaced capitalism...literally just boppin all day long

  • ShittyWallpaper [they/them]
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    2 years ago

    I wonder if things like the hexbear bouncing cat emotes are a bit twee and cringe

    I used to think this same thing. Cringe is the secondhand embarrassment we feel as we see people perceive themselves one way and portray themselves another by accident. I’ve found that part of clearing away my patriarchal brainworms has been expanding the expressions which I perceive as intentional. A lot of it just boiled down to, “no man would look that effeminate on purpose” or some similarly sexist garbage. So wiping that away has made me cringe way less often. Because I see that people are generally quite aware of how they come off most of the time. I was, out of habit, putting on a performance for no one to avoid consequences which wouldn’t have bothered me.

    I don’t know if this is the case for you and I don’t mean it as an accusation*. Just wanted to share my thoughts

    *Also, am I nuts or is this a primary way for people to interact on TikTok? Instead of just sharing their own experiences, they have to construct some intellectual-sounding generalization and project it onto others