If people have come out less than 10 years ago, i find that the highest likelyhood of them being transmeds is if they are super ultra fucking online. From my experience, it is completely impossible to go into any offline queer space and not run into nonbinary people. That's just how it is around here. With most transmeds, i find that they're boomers or gen Xers ... scratch that, physical age is irrelevant here, what matters is when you came out. I know 60 year olds who aren't transmeds, but they came out during the last couple of years. When i say boomers or Gen Xers, i mean people who started transitioning in the most nightmarish gatekeeping era. At its core, classic transmedicalism is a kind of maldadaptive coping / survival mechanism - when you transitioned in the 70s or 80s or 90s, it was actually mandatory to at least pretend that you think of your transness as a pathology, to desire a highly binary and especially very gender conforming presentation to prove your validity, to not scare transhomophobes who believed in junk science like AGP, and many trans elders didn't just pretend that, they internalized all of that. That shit's not entirely gone outside of informed consent clinics in the US and Canada, i still have to navigate gatekeeping, i still have to hide from my health insurance that i'm actually nonbinary, but i can at least say to a therapist i like other girls and hate patriarchal expectations towards women and fems and i can talk about things like gender euphoria and being proud to be trans and defining gender for myself and all that jazz without having my trans card revoked. I can talk freely to medical professionals about most of my experience without risking access to vaginoplasty. And that's just not how things were back in the day. These people didn't have that freedom and some of them find it hard to accept that we have it easier today. It's tragic, actually.

But then there's the kids who end up on 4chan while they're eggs and who crack on /tttt/ and who crawl around the margins of trans subreddits. That's not actually a big crowd, and i find them to be entirely fucking irrelevant irl because they are not part of any actual organizing on the ground trans community i've ever seen, which is not surprising given that they are mortally afraid of being seen around queer people and have this tendency to still boymode after 5 years on HRT and breast augmentation surgery (i wish i was joking) because there may still be a less than 0 chance somebody might clock them, but their extremely online nature gives them the opportunity to heavily poison trans communities on social media, and they inject some extremely harmful discourse into wider trans spaces, especially when it comes to toxic believes around the whole "it's over" thing (if you do not know, do not look it up, in fact never look up anything these people talk about, especially when it has to do with bones).