Obvs this doesn't apply to all transfems but I kinda relate to this but Idk how to put it in words exactly since gender is weird.
The way I think about myself is I like being referred to and perceived as as a girl/woman but I don't fully identify with being a girl/woman. (and in some contexts, I'm ok with being seen as a boy/femboy as well).
Cisgender ideology also makes it hard to describe gender outside the conformist binary notion.
honestly, mood. like, presenting as male is pretty dysphoria inducing but like, it's not even the worst thing on earth? I'd much rather be a cute girl but also men are attractive and they look nice? I don't (well, for now. might change idk) really identify with cis women in this weird sense? like, no, I'm not a woman, I'm a trans woman. Actually, even the term "woman" feels weird to me. I'm still picking bits of eggshell out of my hair, I am a fucking baby. Trans girl feels way nicer to me than trans woman (which is funny, my childhood best friend who's been out as a trans woman for over half a decade now doesn't like the term girl and prefers woman)
I also like referring to myself as a trans girl or transfem over trans woman. I kinda consider myself a mixture of ~90% girl and ~10% boy atm