I looked into Purity Balls and shit, and what the actual fuck? Is this a product of toxic masculinity? Why has no one stopped this?
Yeah, I couldn't agree more. And it seems like a lot of insidious shit plays into this same mentality of, "the man must protect the woman". There just such a weird racial component to it, like this weird racist trope of "then white women will be sleeping with black men".
It's just fucking disgusting.
The events are attended by fathers and their teenage daughters in order to promote virginity until marriage. Typically, daughters who attend a purity ball make a virginity pledge to remain sexually abstinent until marriage. Fathers who attend a purity ball make a promise to protect their young daughters' "purity of mind, body, and soul."
Now if I was more conspiracy minded I'd say this sounds like some fucked up swinger-party but it's probably just some fucked up religious purity cult nonsense.
edit: "Wilson advises fathers to praise their daughters' physical attractiveness: "I applaud your courage to look your daughter in the eye and tell her how beautiful she is." Participants are described as "dates", and, according to Glamour magazine, could be mistaken for heterosexual romantic partners in the absence of information about their parent-child relationship." oh god oh fuck
Me: "Well, I don't know, it could be really sweet to spend some time with a parent and go to a party, and dancing doesn't have to be sexual. Like at weddings when the groom dances with his mom and the bride dances with her dad, that's really sweet."
... reads what you quoted above ....
Never mind, puking right now.
Could you link me the article or whatever this is from, please? I need to ruin my morning.
like it comes from two thing first these things generally are like people justifying violence they would like to engage by saying well if it WAS MY DAUGHTER I WOULD KILL etc etc you are just thinking a situation where most people would probably not think you are wrong in being violence second kids are easily misconstructed on parents minds that they are a extension of them thus if my daughter had sex before the marriage it would be like that dude fucked ME or something on that mindset
Yeah projection all the way. Ironically I think they might be onto something in a weird self fulling prophecy kind of way. First in that their possessive behavior will lead their kids to date in secret. Second and this might take some time to explain, but I always thought we learned what love is from the people who raised us. Basically Freud in that we marry our parents. A lot of their kids will mimic or be attracted to their parent's abusive behavior in others thinking that is what normal relationships are and end up miserable like their own parents.
So my brother lives in the South. Purity Balls are horrifying, but they're rooted in another slightly less horrible tradition in the South, which is the daddy/daughter dance. It's still a paternalistic ritual that has some really disturbing incestuous connotations, but they're not nearly as open as what Purity Balls do. My niece went to one with my brother and it was actually pretty cute but slightly off.
Just wait till you meet a girl named Chastity
That one was always a lil weird for me
Naming my daughter chastity for the irony of it
Then getting a second layer of irony when she grows up to be ace
