Context: Admin of small friends server announced earlier today his mom was in the hospital and may be in trouble. Comes back later with this announcement.
Multiple people have told me they may have made the same mistake, including two server members who said they thought he meant that too. But god I'm incredibly embarrassed.
It's a canon event boss, just gotta accept the embarrassment and move on
That is such a great way of putting it. It’s canon now. A moment that cannot be changed when retelling the narrative.
If they’re cool it’ll be told as “..this asshole was happy punches your shoulder” type thing.
There is no reason a good faith person would assume you meant anything bad by it, even if emotions are hot.
He's a very serious person so I dont think its ever going to become a joke but yeah I dont currently think he's going to hold it against me or anything either.
im with you, the way it was written was ambiguous lol. i would have made the same mistake.
Honestly it sucks that the Mum is dying but this is pretty funny out of context
text really does not convey emotion at all, also you have autism in your name so... guys...
Honest mistake, just unfortunate timing.
Why is it that people avoid using words like "died" or "dying" like they're vulgar or grotesque?
They don't want to acknowledge it, sort of manifest or reify the death of the loved one or mortality in general when they speak. It might be because they haven't accepted death as a part of life, or they think they should be above it. For more normal people, it probably just makes them uncomfortable, of they were raised to not discuss the processes of life so directly(can't say sex, fuck, or pregnant, not shitting but releaving oneself, can't call it a period but a time of the month, and so on.)
I wouldn't have used "on her way out" as a term for dying or not doing well. I mean that's how i refer to like a piece of tech dying not a person. Also I've never used that crying emoji to express any serious sadness nor seen it used like that.
I'd say it was worded weirdly but my method is to wait for other people to reply before making mine if I'm not 100% sure.
Lol. I'm sorry that happened but it ls so funny. I hope he gets it, step back until you're over it but make sure to be there for your friend while he grieves.
undefined> There's a substantial body of sociology evidence that suggests that if you do something embarrassing and own up to it it can actually improve your standing in a social group.
this explains why i am generally well-liked in most of my friend groups despite being embarrassing to be around lol
normally I'd say I get it, text can be unclear, but what did you think the crying emojiis meant lol
I dont think Ive ever seen those emojis used to express serious sadness so I guess I thought happy tears?
I normally see people put other emojis when they're using those sarcastically, like laughing followed by crying. I guess I get it most people don't really use emojiis for super serious matters like that. To be quite frank I wouldn't even announce shit like that in a discord it would take me a couple days to even be able to tell people in vc, let alone announce it and tag everyone lol
To be fair, in his earlier announcement he was asking for support/prayers/good vibes. So I think this was just a continuation of that.
By coincidence I end up using "on their way out" a lot for death, partly because of rescuing a very old dog a few years ago and also reading a funny passage in Letters on Ethics:
the passage, emphasis mine
- Wherever I turn, I see evidences of my advancing years. I visited lately my country-place, and protested against the money which was spent on the tumble-down building. My bailiff maintained that the flaws were not due to his own carelessness; "he was doing everything possible, but the house was old." And this was the house which grew under my own hands! What has the future in store for me, if stones of my own age are already crumbling? 2. I was angry, and I embraced the first opportunity to vent my spleen in the bailiff's presence. "It is clear," I cried, "that these plane-trees are neglected; they have no leaves. Their branches are so gnarled and shrivelled; the boles are so rough and unkempt! This would not happen, if someone loosened the earth at their feet, and watered them." The bailiff swore by my protecting deity that "he was doing everything possible, and never relaxed his efforts, but those trees were old." Between you and me, I had planted those trees myself, I had seen them in their first leaf. 3. Then I turned to the door and asked: "Who is that broken-down dotard? You have done well to place him at the entrance; for he is outward bound. Where did you get him? What pleasure did it give you to take up for burial some other man's dead?" But the slave said: "Don't you know me, sir? I am Felicio; you used to bring me little images. My father was Philositus the steward, and I am your pet slave." "The man is clean crazy," I remarked. "Has my pet slave become a little boy again? But it is quite possible; his teeth are just dropping out."
But that person expressed themselves exceptionally poorly with the weeping emojis (that are usually used for humor) and the ambiguous turn of phrase
