My ex bought us tickets to go see the Flaming Lips because that's our band. We're broken up now, but still going to the concert together tonight. I haven't been to a show since middle school and don't know shit about concerts. Is there anything I should know before going?

  • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]
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    5 months ago

    earplugs, bring 'em. even if you don't need them it's good to have just in case. I wish I had done that when I was younger going to concerts.

    • EmmaGoldman [she/her, comrade/them]
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      5 months ago

      Do not skip on this. You can get ones that have a nice flat noise reduction, and you will be so thankful you spent the like $30 when your ears aren't ringing forever.

      • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]
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        5 months ago

        eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

        sorry i can't hear you over my tinnitus because i'm half dead and i never used earplugs when i was young

    • Chronicon [they/them]
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      5 months ago

      yeah this

      I own ones with little filter elements in them that reduce the noise without straight up blocking it/muddying the sound. I usually forget them though. Pretty sure I'm slowly getting tinnitus. But there have been times where I've been to shows that ended up being way louder than I expected that they were a lifesaver.

      • nat_turner_overdrive [he/him]
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        5 months ago

        I'm forty and I absolutely have tinnitus, and it's due to a combination of concerts, driving a convertible in my twenties (north american miata-boy love association member), and working with airtools. Runner up causes are working with grinders, cutoff wheels, sawzalls, chainsaws, etc. If I were less stupid I would have used earplugs and I would not now hear a constant EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

        • Chronicon [they/them]
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          5 months ago

          yeah I only do that kind of loud stuff occasionally, and I sometimes wear hearing protection, so it's not bad yet, but its going to be if I don't get better about it. Teaching kids how to use power tools has really helped remind me to use hearing protection, because I would feel terrible if I taught them habits that got them hurt, but I care less about myself, in the moment.

          I don't want to be like my dad who's half deaf in one ear at not-that-old of an age and spent years denying there was anything wrong (or my grandpa who bought cheap amplifiers rather than properly tuned hearing aids and made his hearing much worse)

          driving a convertible is one I don't hear many talk about but yeah, I had a car with no AC and a soft top and any drive at highway speed more than like 20 mins you really wanted earplugs for

      • EllenKelly [comrade/them]
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        5 months ago

        Mine live in a container attached to my keys, it means i have them everywhere, protip

        • Chronicon [they/them]
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          5 months ago

          it's a good idea but anything attached to my keys needs to be pretty indestructible or it gets destroyed. My first pair came in a plastic pill shaped container but it didn't last too long before breaking. A metal one would be better but so far I haven't been able to convince myself to do it lol (I go to shows like 3x a year realistically). and it has to be pretty small or it will drive me nuts in my pocket and I'll take it off my keys. I have a good number of keys but nothing bulky like car keys or pill containers or charms or anything.

          I do know a perfect store to look for little metal capsules though... maybe next time I'm there

    • Infamousblt [any]
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      5 months ago

      This. There's no shame in it. That shit is loud to the core. Bring some backups too just in case you lose or drop one. You'll still be able to hear JUST FINE.

  • ratboy [they/them]
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    5 months ago

    Look at the venue website to see what is/isn't allowed inside, and whether or not they require a clear bag or not. Since it's Flaming Lips I imagine it'll be a big outdoor amphitheater. Bring layers if it gets cold at night. Maybe bring ear protection. If it's inside, absolutely bring them. If you have lawn seats for an outdoor show, could be a good idea to bring a blanket to sit on.

    Food, drinks, merch will all be expensive. Think like $5 for a bottle of water, $12 for a pint of beer that probably won't be a true pint, $40 minimum for merch.

    There will be a LOT of people. If it's in indoor venue I'd expect to be shoulder to shoulder with people unless you're towards the back. If it's outdoors that won't be as much of an issue, but you could get caught in big crowds milling around concession stands and getting back towards the concert area.

    If you're below 5' 10", there will ALWAYS be the tallest mother fucker in the venue standing directly in front of you lmao. It's like Murphys law. Don't be afraid to snake your way through the crowd to get a better view. If it is packed shoulder to shoulder, I'll look for the biggest gap and use my hand to gently touch people's shoulders and say "excuse me" as I try to move towards the front and that's been good enough to get people to let me through.

    I think the people will mostly be chill, probably over 40 if I had to guess. Probably some old hippies on acid or whatever lol. Have so much fun!

  • abc [he/him, comrade/them]
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    5 months ago

    Be sure to check the venue's site/etc for bag rules - went to a concert last month at an venue I've been to like a dozen times before with some friends and they weren't letting anyone in who had a bag bigger than like 6 inches & they had to be clear. (which pissed off one of my friends who'd brought like a canvas bag specifically for carrying the blanket she was gonna put out & they refused to let her bring it inside even after showing it only held a blanket)

    Be prepared to be gouged for anything food/drink wise. I spent $13.00 on a $5 can of liquid death (which my high ass was initially like 'wtf this is a fucking seltzer i asked for water dude' to the poor teenager working lol) and a $7.00 soft pretzel. If you're gonna get wasted, I'd probably recommend pre-gaming outside but I've had luck bringing airplane bottles of liquor in my pockets (and had friends who would put them in their bra) and buying a 'cheaper' soda to mix/chase it with. If it's outdoors, you can probably get away with sneaking a joint in (especially if you smoke cigarettes) as most places aren't gonna care. If you have an electronic vape/cart for weed, same thing and even easier in most cases.

    If it's packed and you've brought like a blanket/chair/etc - do NOT be afraid to strike up a conversation with a couple or stranger who might be using way too much space and ask them if they mind if you park right next to them. I have a friend who is a fucking master at this and always leaves concerts with like one new 'friend' they've made in securing us a spot; never takes her more than a 'hey do you mind if we/I put our stuff right here?' and a 'excited for the show?'. I personally am a bit too self-conscious to ever do it when its really packed, but if you just don't want to be standing behind a pillar or something and see a spot you could theoretically stand/sit in if someone is gracious enough to pull their chairs together or step slightly closer to their group - it is always worth doing. A large chunk of people who get like lawn chairs and whatnot at concerts are perfectly fine with giving up a bit of space to let someone squeeze in, as long as you're not rolling like 10 people deep with three blankets or something.

    Merch for bigger shows usually sells out by the middle of the concert, so if you're dead set on getting a poster or something, be sure to stop when you're entering the venue or, if they play a song you dislike/don't care about early on, step away at some point during the concert early. As always, the really dedicated people will be at the merch booth as soon as the venue opens and will wait in line while the show is happening - so bear in mind that you may never get that really cool piece of merch if you wait too long, but eh.

    Bathrooms will always have a line, but less so when the show is on - so like merch, I usually try to time this for songs that I dislike or have heard live way too many times before. Depending on the venue though, you may be able to hear the show without issue while in line for merch/bathroom/etc - but it's always a bummer being next in line for the bathroom and hearing your favorite song start!!!

    All in all, I actually prefer going to concerts alone because I can just stand/sit somewhere and not really have to worry about my friends (who love dancing) & do stuff like spend 30 minutes in the merch line as soon as the venue opens or sit down and vibe the entire concert - so have fun!!

  • GaveUp [she/her]
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    5 months ago

    If it's a weed friendly city, smoking a joint during the show is a-okay, no ciggies tho

    If you're at the very front, you can stay a little bit after the show and try to get the setlist paper or the band may pass out guitar picks or smth