Like I've known since the early-mid 10's, but I've only really ever been trans online.
I've just stagnated in boymode for years taking shit dosages of HRT cuz I'm poor.
Seeing people's eggs crack in real time and then a year later they are a woman is like a surreal and painful experience.
On one hand it feels like I have been trans longer than all these people, but on the other....have I?
I see people make timelines like "5 months on HRT vs. 2 years on HRT" (or stuff like that) and know I could never do one of those because my relationship to HRT has been so chaotic and inconsistent.
I just feel so alienated from the trans community, or at least the one that constantly gets pushed into my face on Twitter.
I'm making an active effort to be better, to push myself and escape this purgatory, but it's hard when you feel so by yourself.
I feel like the last couple years would have been so much worse if I had remained an egg, but at the same time I wouldn't have this guilt and shame and regret for wasting so much time that I know is completely my fault.
Idk why I am making this post
Same but for voice, I feel the same way watching some coworkers that are also trans and apparently affording voice therapy and progressing rapidly. It took me almost 10 years to find something accessible and its still DIY and taking its time. My voice still outs me a lot, I'm passing a lot better but not great. On the flip side, my trans man coworker has the voice down, but doesn't physically pass, and I recall having similar troubles as him early in transition with people being miserable bigoted assholes.
I fucking hate my voice, but not really for dysphoria reasons.
I sound whiny and weird and people will make fun of me in voice comms in games, but they will usually think I am a boy or a woman.
I'd voice train, but hearing it gives me psychic damage.