Pride’s over everyone! It’s now illegal to be gay again.

  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    3 months ago

    Sure as fuck does for me, and my wife, Idk normative timeline expectations for people's life are cisheteropatriarchal, death to america.

    'meme socialisation'

    Well I mean, you can always try to alter the behavioural aspects you don't like, but a lot of behaviours aren't that strongly gendered Idk. Some things are associated more with one or the other binary gender but that does not invalidate you, there are cis women who act "like a man" in certain ways. And yeah, you don't feel that way, but thankfully other people can have way different perspectives and opinions!!

    Oh uh, some grad user got a comment removed with that as the reason, which made me fucking snort. I haven't exactly read Capital Vol 1 either owl-wink

    Ofc meow-hug It's not easy digging out bad notions and such. You'll always be learning new stuff through transition, I still am! It's cool honestly.

    Also I'm glad I can help cat-trans it is worthwhile to log on if I can make anyone's day better, help em feel less bad rat-salute-2

    lfg

    Okay you are allowed to have specific preferences and standards in dating, honestly it's better not to lower your standards imo. But uh thinking-about-it You're sayin' you're fine having a penis but don't really like em when it comes to a partner? That's fine, ngl. Some people value specific types of sex that require specific anatomy and that's allowed, of course. But again, just 'cause you're not really big on how it looks on others, doesn't mean anybody else has that same obstacle. There are lots of people who do like how it looks on others, lol

    I think it's fair to be worried about dating, (and not) it can definitely be tough to navigate and requires a lot of communication, but I think you're worrying a little much.

    No worries cat-trans I'm happy talking about this sorta stuff, sometimes it teaches me things about myself via introspection as well!

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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      3 months ago
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      I know, I know everyone around here hates the term and I'm sure they're right but I just couldn't think of how else to phrase it and I feel like that's a thing I'm dealing with. I don't know. I should make a full post about it at some point.

      I know I can try and change it, some things I want to and some I'm not sure how to. We'll see I guess.

      That is quite funny, mods pls no ban.

      :cat-trans: It really isn't easy. I do worry a lot. Its hard not to.

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        3 months ago
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        Yeah it would be good to have, Idk more detail about this subject. But I can at least say that I didn't immediately flip to behaving differently and nobody ever bugged me about mAlE sOcIaLiSaTiOn so uh, Idk. Make a post sometime and I will read it!!

        It was yeah, grad mods be hardcore I guess. I think we have a doomer comm so no bans here, lol

        Shit's kinda scary tbf cat-trans

        • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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          3 months ago

          I hope you aren't expecting an in depth analysis or anything, it will literally just be me not understanding things and feeling like a guy cheems

          • ashinadash [she/her]
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            3 months ago

            Yeah that's alright! Replies can do the indepth analysis and confirm that you aren't swole-doge it's gonna be rad!