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From the trans side too, anatomical preferences are a weird kind of brainworm. I’m a kid who doesn’t know anything yet but, yeah.
It legitimately did not occur to me that people under 18 use bearsite
anyway uh
anatomical preferences
My instinct was to be contrarian and devil's-advocate for it, because it's not inherently a bad thing, though I've also never really understood it either. If you really like sticking your bits in someone, or really like people sticking things in you, I'm pretty sure that's doable with almost any configuration.
That's a crass, coarse view of it and there are more specific fine grained reasons too - like Idk, maybe you are a t4t transfem and just feel more comfortable with peepnis, why not I guess? Stuff like that, personal history and comfort and whatnot.
It's a combination of being ace and hugely autistic I guess, but my partner's sexual anatomy has never ever mattered to me. If I like someone, I can work with whatever they've got, not a problem. Hands are versatile. Allos be allo-ing though.
Lemmygrad recently had a minor internal discussion about its minimum age. I believe it's legally 13 in the US due to COPPA, just like Reddit. I haven't seen a bunch of kids here like on there, but it's probably safer here for actual children (if you don't mind the trans Marxist indoctrination /rj) than a lot of the Internet to be honest.
That said, I wonder if the feelings of being "new to adulthood" that some young adults already have are compounded on top of not actually having gone through the correct puberty for other young adult baby trans people
That's what I figured, 13. And yeah actually kids getting on here might not inherently be a bad thing? Me trans-marxistly indoctrinating the kids.
Yeah, I wonder too. I sometimes don't really feel like a full adult myself (mostly executive function and puberty related) and I'm mid 20s. Shouts to our young adult baby transes.
Just checked and the Hexbear TOS says 13 as well
I think I was on Reddit pre-legal… Yeah, it’s a lot better here. I don’t want to “grow up” in the form of meeting societal standards of being a “productive member of society”/good neoliberal subject (a bit of an ADHD thing unfortunately), but I do want to know myself as soon as possible, and I think I’m doing well enough.
I went on reddit as a kid too, fucked me up honestly. Brainrot zone.
I’ve hinted at it a couple times after my explicit avowal a while ago was removed. I know a few lemmygradders of similar age. Not sure about the bearsite (I’m a GZD refugee, relatively new here). I’m sure you can forgive my ignorance a bit easier lol.
It might be OCD or something, but I feel like I have projected way more dysphoria on others than I have had for myself. Sexual orientation wise, I’m pan, and knew once what it was like to be horny, but also people are gross (lil rationally (?) germaphobic), and I’m inexperienced and confused, and my first relationship was complicated by what I already mentioned, which was all in my head. Idk what to expect from cis(ish) lesbians and barely transitioning/peepni.
I guess "Gen Zedong", Gen z.... Where the cool kids hang out...
Dare I ask how projecting dysphoria onto others works?
You should read Gender Outlaw though it's cool, ngl.
Yeah, before I was a committed revolutionary (hj - motivation and anxiety allowing), the shitposts drew me in.
idiosyncratic brainworms
Of course :3 Despite knowing I look great when I look in the mirror, when I go out and look at girls I’m like “damn 0: they really look like that? [thin waist, small hands, you name it] I suppose it’s kind of normal, but I think it’s weirder with men (my language is deliberate, people my age are pretty, adults - but mostly men - disturb me). I see their giant shoulders, (particularly in relation to totally lacking asses) and hair, and bad fashion, and I’m like “wow would it suck to look like them. How do they wake up and choose it?” It used to physically hurt me, but I’ve gotten used to it, and it doesn’t so much anymore. To be clear, some dudes look fine, and occasionally I actually find them attractive or have a weird automatic crush, but yeah. To me it sounds like a normal teen thing - to notice how people look post puberty for the first time - but my particular case probably isn’t?
I have a long list, but I don’t really go by it, so assuming my mind doesn’t change - which it very frequently does - I may read it soon bc it’s been high priority for a few days. <3
Imagine being a committed revolutionary instead of being too anxious to go outside :^)
lfg
Ohhhhh, okay that's not all that weird actually. Maybe ever so slightly judgemental? But I also can't comprehend how anyone likes being a man. Thing is, I don't have to, and just dw about it. People like being how they be and that's that. Glad it doesn't hurt you anymore though, that sucks. Also yeah, I find myself physically "people-watching" all the time, partly as a brainworm antidote - I find observing average, realistic human bodies helpful ig. I can fret over hip width and arm length or whatever, but like, women outside who are probably cis often match my measurements. It Is Fine.
Banger, post here if/when you do read it!
saving space idk
That’s the “one” thing about all the anxieties I found I didn’t have on my recent mental health journey/hyperfixation. I’m anxious, but I’ll walk aimlessly or do whatever if the impulses are right, and assume I’ll be fine eventually. I do a lot of shit that would worry a neurotypical.
I suppose it’s an extra background stimulus while I think and do multiple other things. That’s probably the best way to go about it. I rarely do, but I guess rather than simply looking for beauty in everyone and not liking when I don’t find it (lmao), I could just recognize more that perfection isn’t real, and if people can live with themselves (although some probably have self hate) that’s ok and I should just be happy I look better than them (real narcissist hours, lol). It’s probably not best to dwell on one’s own subjective superiority, but…
I’m also always figuring out how I can be better, trying not lean into dissatisfaction either. It’s ok, it’s a dialectic.
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Yeah almost everyone has something about them they don't like, perfection is a concept sold as normative beauty standards so that people keep buying into beauty products and processes. I never really got the "at least I look better than them" thought, I kind of hate punching-down thought like that. Not a competition, really.
Honestly my biggest takeaway from people-watching is that dimorphism in humans is not that pronounced and you could very feasibly shoot estrogen into a lot of guys and get good results
Fair enough, I’m kind of on the positive end of insanity right now and I couldn’t stop admiring my looks last night, so… Societal standards of “perfection” are stupid. Meanwhile, by my own standards I’m like 90% perfect, just working out the kinks, can always get better. Intellectually I don’t really believe in my superiority, but it’s an interesting thing to get over. Especially, when my ego isn’t fragile like many “big” ones. If I can’t do something, that’s really fine with me, but if I care to try I’ll try. I’m trying to learn metta. I know psychedelics are supposed to help kill your ego, but I feel like I just had all my realizations for now in my natural high.
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