Something I learned along the way in life generally is to ask for what I need.

Hi family, I'm a transwoman. I've known this for a while, but am no longer keeping it to myself because I would really love all of your support. And I would appreciate it if people would use she/her pronouns now and call me Rayne. Also, if anyone has some femme clothes they don't want anymore, I would love to try them on and what I don't keep, I'm happy to drop off at the thrift store.

Remember, it's really not about them. Transitioning is healing and healthy. People wouldn't try to talk us out of chemo, or be skeptical if we said we needed it. Don't let unsupportive people make you defend living your best life. If supportive people want to understand your struggles, share as much as you are comfortable with. And if they want to understand trans health care more generally, send them some of your favorite resources rather than trying to educate them. Because it's not the job of vulnerable populations to educate privileged people.

Share your lived experience if people are supportive, ask for what you need, and don't make it your job to educate people because it's often rooted in skepticism or trying to talk us back into the closet.

That's the advice I wish I had given myself before coming out to my family. I hope it's helpful and not too aggressive.

Final thought, however things go, we're here for you :)