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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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    4 months ago
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    Uh why would I ever say that's not an issue? What gives you that impression? Do you not think the issue I describe is (was, I guess?) my issue as well? Of course it is an issue.

    I don't know cheems sometimes I say things and I think people will react one way and they don't. And I felt like maybe that would be too close to calling being trans an issue for people to be okay with. Sometimes I genuinely have no idea how people will react and it makes me very worried. I know that trans people get very defensive at the idea that being trans is an issue to be fixed (kinda like with autism) and I just struggle to understand the actual line in the sand that upsets people (or if what I say will be misunderstood to mean something else, god I hate that). idk. Probably my autism. This happens a lot to me.

    I don't know, I'm probably not explaining it well. I do want to be a woman/girl but... I don't know I feel like the biological stuff is a bigger issue. If people socially saw everyone the same without gender labels I'd be a huge fan overall though.

    Although I suppose I really do prefer she/her to they/them (once I transition at least), so I am not completely free from gender roles.

    I only said because you mentioned really hating that women would perceive you as a man and be cautious.

    I mean this is kinda from toxic gender role stuff though, isn't it? Men being a danger to women and then women being fearful. And I don't think I've ever been that way? Obviously it feels shitty to feel like people see you as a threat, especially if you aren't. Not that I'm saying women don't have good reason to be careful.

    Yes this paragraph is all very agreeable to me.

    • ashinadash [she/her]
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      4 months ago
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      One of my favourite things I have learned, and people fucking hate this, is that you cannot predict a human being. You would need access to their every thought ever to predict how any given person is going to behave. Chaotic creatures!!! niko-wonderous

      I see though, makes sense. Being trans is not an issue itself, and dysphoria is only an "issue" in the sense it hurts people and should be treated however they desire basically. The reason that viewing being trans or autistic as an "issue" gets people up in arms is because it's normative, seeking to cure trans and nd people back to cis or nt states, viewed as a deviation. Treating dysphoria, however, helps beautiful lovely trans people be beautiful lovely and trans ✨ You will still see people chafe at the medicalisation of dysphoria somewhat, because medicalisation can be bad mojo in general, but y'know it's fine.

      Well however you parse it is fine, I think, if you see the biology as the main thing. I find it fascinating that you describe the utter destruction of gender as something you'd be a big fan of though!!! badeline-jokerfied I have that too though, she/her just tickles me Idk why. I guess because of the two binary genders I am closer to "woman", but I do not really get why I find she/her funny tbh.

      Yeahhhhhh toxic gender role shit kel-bliss that makes total sense, I see. You especially don't wanna be viewed as threatening for a gender you aren't even being, understandable.

      :>