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  • rtstragedy [she/her]
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    6 days ago

    Yeah the skin on my face is very thin like if I don't have makeup on you'd see the veins fairly easily through the skin, I have ones near my eye sockets and where the skin is more translucent in places too, like see through.

    that's cool as heck tbh

    My aesthetic is pale goth, wears dark clothes all year round.

    i like dark clothes better than light clothes, i think they work better with my pale skin, so i can relate, except i get sweaty in the heat and that is not fun, so i have to mix it up when it's hot (or, you know, stay inside in the AC lol), or wear shorts (ugh, i have HUGE scars on my legs from multiple surgeries due to a birth defect)

    i love tights and stockings of all kinds though (except when the waistbands dig in) and i want to wear those out more, more skirts etc.

    I know fashion fairly well, I spent a long time growing up watching fashion programs, reading and learning about clothing and such, I also like makeup and smellies so I like scents too, I have a very good sense of smell.

    that's really cool! i found fashion programs ok when i was young, but my experiences on reddit have made me swear off the fashion community in general because i found myself being very limited and anxiety-ridden with what's "in style" - this is in part why I find binary labels so constricting these days, but i worry about how people see me so much.

    i too have a really sensitive sense of smell, but i don't do scents on myself other than like deodorant (when i remember to put it on whoops lucky i don't usually smell too strong) because i'm worried about what that will say about me

    Most people don't care about other people around them, they are too busy wrapped up in their own little bubble.

    kitty-cri-screm how do i internalize this, i am so envious of your attitude about these things

    I usually wear lighter clothing under a very light coat or jumper so my skin can breathe in the heat.. but I hate feeling sweaty, it's torture, though I endure that because I really hate feeling the sun on me.

    edit whoops missed a sentence: yes i know that feeling, which is worse, sun or sweat. not an easy choice for me. i like the cold better because i can bundle up, wear scarves, gloves, tights, layers, boots, and not worry about sweating!

    • magi [null/void]
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      6 days ago

      It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol. I get too warm too but I shop for breathable fabrics which helps a lot too, thinner clothes work better in the heat in the Summer even if they're black. Skirts help and I love stockings too. I was born a month premature so I am strange shaped through that and I have a short ribcage and other weird things going on genetically but alas.

      I just wear what i want really, I have some idea on styles and such but I tend to just wear what is comfortable too, I don't keep up to date with modern trends and such, I just know certain styles of shirts or skirts etc.

      how do i internalize this

      Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

      I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

      • rtstragedy [she/her]
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        5 days ago

        It depends for me, I can mix it up a little but I tend to gravitate to black lol

        it goes with everything! it gives nice contrast with my skin tone! it's slimming! it makes me look slightly mysterious! i agree, although i also have a fondness for coloured tights, you'll probably just catch me wearing dark fall colours with those though.

        Keep saying it to yourself when you start to worry. If you observe people when out, you'll notice they'll just go about doing their own thing without really looking around them at other people, rarely do you get people observing the people they're more looking at the shelves and such.

        would you believe i'm 15 years into transition, have a job where i need to be extremely social, and yet still haven't solved this problem? i will try your approach! (I observe people a LOT, i am unfortunately prone to staring...)

        I take sweat over the sun lol I also love the colder weather to the point where I can wear thin leggings in -20C weather and not have it affect me. I used to sleep with my window open in the winter too lol

        YES i love winter, although i do have to bundle up for it, i'd rather be cold than hot since i can always put on more clothes and be cozier, but in summer i feel less cozy with bare skin

        • magi [null/void]
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          5 days ago

          I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

          15 years into transition

          A bit ahead of me ^^

          i am unfortunately prone to staring...

          Yeah I was aware I can stare so I tend to change what I'm looking at a bit more frequently.

          YES i love winter

          Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

          • rtstragedy [she/her]
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            5 days ago

            I sometimes mix in a little bit of colour too just to break up the black lol

            sick yeah if you wear mostly black adding a little bit of colour really makes it pop, looks ultra-deliberate and very chic knight-nod

            Same, though I'm pretty warm blooded so I can counter the cold naturally, I'm like a radiator lol

            this seems like it would have a lot of benefits. i am totally the opposite lol i get cold so easy even in summer (maybe due to good AC or maybe cold floor?) (still love winter the best tho), and partner is warm, so i sometimes put my hands under his shirt to warm them up which he uh tolerates

            • magi [null/void]
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              5 days ago

              yeah I tend to usr scaces and such for the colour

              My wife basically uses me as a radiator lol which I enjoy because im always roasting and I enjoy the cold feeling of cold hands or feet