It makes me so mad/sad that this is the modern reality for relationships. At the same time my self esteem is skyrocketing because of all the likes like a casino with bright lights and big numbers but the whole thing feels cheapened. I know there's more valid reasons to this besides the fact that idk how to text matches but I'm blanking

  • Koa_lala [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    It's even more disgusting if you realize how the algo works and it's designed to make people desperate and keep them engaged and swiping.

      • Baader [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Hi there. There are some sources on tinder. However, form an academic standpoint, tinder is just one app. Therefore, the research is done more on a broader level. There is not much research into tinder, but very much research about persuavive design and dopamine triggers in apps/games. I am actually researching this topic at a University. Here are some news sources: https://medium.com/thrive-global/how-technology-hijacks-peoples-minds-from-a-magician-and-google-s-design-ethicist-56d62ef5edf3 http://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2018/dopamine-smartphones-battle-time/ https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/oct/05/smartphone-addiction-silicon-valley-dystopia https://www.gamasutra.com/blogs/BenLewisEvans/20130827/198975/

        If you want academic sources, I can post some, too.

        Its important for us to understand, how all games and apps work nowadays. Facebook implemented the "pull to refresh" and randomized the time line because this way every refresh is a small dopamine trigger. There is a paper from the 90s (iirc) that introduced "persuasive design", basically design to change your behaviour. This can be a good thing, for people with depression or adhd. But these designs are now being used in all online apps and games. Now, when your brain gets used to dopamine triggers with the press on a button, your receptors scream for dopamine. So you start checking you phone every 5 minutes. Nobody did that 20 years ago. This is especially true for kids and teenagers. Their brain still developes and we now know, that the brain builts it's connections dependant on what it's doing (neuroplasticity). So you basically program your brain for addiction.

      • TheOneTrueChapo [comrade/them]
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        4 years ago

        I don't have a source but IIRC the more people swipe right on you, the higher on the stack you get, and if people who are often swiped right by others swipe right on you this pushes you up even further. Also, if you swipe right a lot but people swipe left on you a lot you get pushed down in rankings. Basically it's a cyclical process where people who get swipes and matches get set up to get even more meanwhile the more, well, lonely users get pushed aside

        • Prinz1989 [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          Can confirm, as a "more lonely" user I just stopped using the app. Like what are bald, bookish people even supposed to do in todays world? Seems it's all about looks and sport.

          • Randomdog [he/him]
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            4 years ago

            Like what are bald, bookish people even supposed to do in todays world?

            Wait 320 years then become a starship captain

          • MaoTheLawn [any, any]
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            4 years ago

            Well, aside from relationships, if you have time you should start doing sport - doesn't have to be UFC. Sport does wonders for you mental and physical wellbeing. Helps you with making friends too.

        • Baader [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=21CKkv4J8KA This is a great series on dopamin. It starts with Tinder. It is in german, therefore it doesn't help with the discussion. But I thought you might enjoy it, if you don't know it already.