so i’m dating a girl, and last night she mentioned she had BPD. i didn’t think much of it, i wasn’t familiar with it. i just started doing research and went to reddit (maybe a big mistake) just to see what ‘real life’ people were saying about it. it’s /r/BPDlovedones and it’s basically victims of people who have dated someone with BPD...
it’s currently scaring the shit out of me and kind of making me have a panic attack. there was a post saying “Any advice for someone starting to date a person with BPD?” and literally everyone said “Don’t. they’ll ruin your life. the person they are now is not who they really are. they change themselves to adjust to your personality” and it all the basic patterns align with what i’m experiencing. it’s very scary. i don’t know what to do.
edit: yeah it’s just shitty non-BPD being very hateful and resentful. very insensitive, kinda dramatic. anyway
i know reddit is infamous for having these ‘victim’ groups who hate on a certain type of people who ruined their lives, and it feels very dehumanizing. i don’t think it is impossible to date this person and i don’t want to just stop seeing them. i don’t know what to do tbh. just very overwhelmed
An ex of mine wasn't diagnosed, but after taking a few psych courses, I would say she probably had BPD and yeah she made my life an inescapable hell for two years. Felt like I was living in the alpha universe of all those Mountain Goats songs, especially this one
ok but you’re just self diagnosing and that’s kinda harmful for people with actual BPD no?
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You should not be diagnosing people after taking a few psych courses, especially if you had (a) a sexual relationship with those people, and (b) it went south.
I AM DROWNING THERE IS NO SIGN OF LAND YOU ARE COMING DOWN WITH ME HAND IN UNLOVABLE HAND
AND I HOPE YOU DIE
I HOPE WE BOTH DIE
Pretty much my 3 year BPD relationship as well, just could not stay on her meds