Its fine until everybody expects you to do specific the sexual acts that they want to do just because of your genitals. The amount of trans women who want to throw women around and pound them is negligible. Going on dates where the other person has tons of expectations and assumptions about things they don't even understand is frustrating.
Like, none of those people ever consider that trans women might be insecure about their genitals. They just hear cock and suddenly getting that is all they care about. It feels really shitty as a trans woman.
I get that, I’ve had my fair share of interactions with chasers on dating apps. The quote I was responding to just didn’t sound like the rabid fetishization I usually associate with chasers. I’m also a switch so I don’t mind topping and throwing someone around a bit but the expectation that I automatically would would bother me too.
Yeah i don't mind that either, what bothers me is that people assume it's what all of us would be into naturally, or that they would object to us getting bottom surgery, or when they disregard obvious dysphoria-induced discomfort. I get the appeal of a nice girldick, i love gock, but i always put the needs of the people i'm dating first. If she doesn't want to be touched below a point where her balls come into play, i'm not doing that, if she wants me to use certain terms for her parts, i always stick with these, if she tells me that she hopes HRT will shrink her giant girldick, i'm supportive instead of saying "but i love how thick and fuckhuge it is" even though i do love how thick and fuckhuge it is. Because i know that kind of pain and because i care. A lot of cis people don't, because to them we aren't people, but a porn genre.
I also have decided to keep mine. I mean specifically women who expect me to manhandle them, do all the initiating, while not making me feel pretty or safe. I'm happy to top, but I won't do it if its the expectation.
imo anyone who expects a trans woman to top them based on no information other than their genitals doesn't have the understanding or sensitivity necessary to hook up with us, let alone date us.
Its fine until everybody expects you to do specific the sexual acts that they want to do just because of your genitals. The amount of trans women who want to throw women around and pound them is negligible. Going on dates where the other person has tons of expectations and assumptions about things they don't even understand is frustrating.
Like, none of those people ever consider that trans women might be insecure about their genitals. They just hear cock and suddenly getting that is all they care about. It feels really shitty as a trans woman.
I get that, I’ve had my fair share of interactions with chasers on dating apps. The quote I was responding to just didn’t sound like the rabid fetishization I usually associate with chasers. I’m also a switch so I don’t mind topping and throwing someone around a bit but the expectation that I automatically would would bother me too.
Yeah i don't mind that either, what bothers me is that people assume it's what all of us would be into naturally, or that they would object to us getting bottom surgery, or when they disregard obvious dysphoria-induced discomfort. I get the appeal of a nice girldick, i love gock, but i always put the needs of the people i'm dating first. If she doesn't want to be touched below a point where her balls come into play, i'm not doing that, if she wants me to use certain terms for her parts, i always stick with these, if she tells me that she hopes HRT will shrink her giant girldick, i'm supportive instead of saying "but i love how thick and fuckhuge it is" even though i do love how thick and fuckhuge it is. Because i know that kind of pain and because i care. A lot of cis people don't, because to them we aren't people, but a porn genre.
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Your girlfriend is very real and very pretty :)
I also have decided to keep mine. I mean specifically women who expect me to manhandle them, do all the initiating, while not making me feel pretty or safe. I'm happy to top, but I won't do it if its the expectation.
imo anyone who expects a trans woman to top them based on no information other than their genitals doesn't have the understanding or sensitivity necessary to hook up with us, let alone date us.
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