yea

  • puff [comrade/them]
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    Finding another communist to date is essentially impossible. I have never dated a communist.

      • WideningGyro [any]
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        5 months ago

        That's basically what I did. My partner was generally lib/apolitical, then I have gradually radicalized her. I did get super lucky that she understands and had/has very strong opinions about climate and environmentalism (part of how we bonded in the first place), so that was an easy vector -> explaining why I believed that solving those problems was impossible without communism. Now we'll be watching some slop tv show and she'll start to do unpromted material analysis and it gets me all hot and bothered

          • WideningGyro [any]
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            5 months ago

            Oh me too, of course! I was just further along in my radicalization than her when we met - and generally more interested in politics/ideology

      • Babs [she/her]
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        5 months ago

        My bf used to be really into radlib streamers like funny clown man, and radicalizing him was a long hard process, but very rewarding. He already had basically the right principles, just needed a bit of deprogramming.

    • kristina [she/her]M
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      i did this tho, i quizzed everyone that messaged me on marx on dating apps and it worked. now have best bf

        • kristina [she/her]M
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          basic stuff in the communist manifesto and terms like dialectical materialism. i was even anarchist inclusive, bf was anarchy adjacent before covid, became a hardline commie after, so we talked about kropotkin and stuff

          i had a bad time where a guy acted like he was a socialist but wasnt in an attempt to have sex with me and i got very thorough (he went to some maga thing on an account he didnt tell me about)

        • kristina [she/her]M
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          oh and if you date another trans person, odds are theyre a socialist of some kind and you can convince them to be commies by explaining the thought process behind it. i dated a couple of other trans women before meeting my bf, we liked each other a lot but it just didnt work out for a variety of reasons. still big friends and theyre all hardliners now

      • bigboopballs [he/him]
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        5 months ago

        Apps and bars are a no go for me. And in a more rural area that's all there is.

        I'm too mentally ill and introverted for bars and I have even less idea how I'm supposed to begin talking to someone on an app (and matches are rare + women expect to not have to do anything and for me to do all the work anyways).

        Even in my city of 100,000 people, apps and bars are all there is agony-deep

        • kristina [she/her]M
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          when i was dating i loved being the initiator, women in general are missing out i think, it makes dating so much easier.

          • bigboopballs [he/him]
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            5 months ago

            when i was dating i loved being the initiator, women in general are missing out i think, it makes dating so much easier.

            that's great. I wish women wanted to initiate @ me. but I am undesirable due to being a loser by society's standards

            • kristina [she/her]M
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              5 months ago

              There are some apps that encourage it, but yeah a lot of apps and stuff seem really bad and corporatized now

    • Cromalin [she/her]M
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      5 months ago

      simply hang out with someone who seems cool, realize they're a communist, then fall in love

      • puff [comrade/them]
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        5 months ago

        Liberals HATE HIM! Learn this one SIMPLE STEP puff used to date another communist!

        • Cromalin [she/her]M
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          5 months ago

          hey jsyk we have these things called pronoun tags here on hexbear and they let you know when maybe it's rude to call someone "him"