"Do I want to be her or be with her?" The answer is BOTH I actually never thought about it 100% exactly like that but yeah, huh. "Autogynephilia" is just trans femme4femme (or butch4butch etc) ✨
I love that she has like a PHD or something and did an actual study on that. But yeah, all this stinky stuff shows up in condensed form in Nevada (again) which I read when I was 15, very luckily innoculating me against these kind of brainworms.
I don't think anyone is seriously advocating for using "autogynephilia", I was just using it to be sarcastic & goofy. Blanchard's "theory" is also a weird way to medicalise which trans women he does and doesn't want to fuck, and which trans women are "useful" to straight men, continuing Harry Benjamin's work. One of Blanchard's favourite guys was J Michael Bailey, whose The Man Who Would Be Queen is less a scientific text and more a sordid tell-all of his affairs with various trans women. AGP/AAP is both gross and fake!
First off, autogynephilia is a bunch of bullshit and should immediately be discarded mentally.
Second off, not everyone needs to or does feel dysphoria. It's not a necessary part of being trans. Seriously. Not everyone does. I did, but I didn't know what it was until I actually started to actively transition.
Honestly, it sounds to me like you have a lot of internalized transphobia. It might do you some good to root out some of it and try and confront the feelings that you're having.
The question then becomes, "Why are you applying the notions to yourself then?" To me it sounds like you're trying to talk yourself out of it. I had the exact same brand of self doubt prior to my egg fully cracking. It took a lot of being miserable and yelling at myself in a mirror before I finally discarded those thoughts and just decided to move forward. Easily the best decision of my life.
When it comes down to it, the only qualifier of whether or not you're trans is, "Am I trans?" If yes, then congrats, you're trans. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. It doesn't matter whether or not you're experiencing dysphoria. Literally nothing else matters. Ultimately, it is your decision to make.
Trust me when I say that more than just myself here can say they certainly understand how you feel. When I first considered HRT, I was unsure as well because this is a major decision. One to not be taken lightly. However, with HRT, you will know if it’s right for you long before any permanent changes take place. This is what got me calmed down and let me decide to just go for it. It does take at least a couple months before anything starts happening that you can’t go back from.
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Okay I was kidding about the, "I'm an ardent autogynephile" shit earlier, it's not real that was a joke, I apologise.
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Oh, well yeah that's also true actually! Very good no notes
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"Do I want to be her or be with her?" The answer is BOTH
I actually never thought about it 100% exactly like that but yeah, huh. "Autogynephilia" is just trans femme4femme (or butch4butch etc) ✨
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I love that she has like a PHD or something and did an actual study on that. But yeah, all this stinky stuff shows up in condensed form in Nevada (again) which I read when I was 15, very luckily innoculating me against these kind of brainworms.
I don't think anyone is seriously advocating for using "autogynephilia", I was just using it to be sarcastic & goofy. Blanchard's "theory" is also a weird way to medicalise which trans women he does and doesn't want to fuck, and which trans women are "useful" to straight men, continuing Harry Benjamin's work. One of Blanchard's favourite guys was J Michael Bailey, whose The Man Who Would Be Queen is less a scientific text and more a sordid tell-all of his affairs with various trans women. AGP/AAP is both gross and fake!
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Oh my goodness you are fine, no need to apologise
First off, autogynephilia is a bunch of bullshit and should immediately be discarded mentally.
Second off, not everyone needs to or does feel dysphoria. It's not a necessary part of being trans. Seriously. Not everyone does. I did, but I didn't know what it was until I actually started to actively transition.
Honestly, it sounds to me like you have a lot of internalized transphobia. It might do you some good to root out some of it and try and confront the feelings that you're having.
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The question then becomes, "Why are you applying the notions to yourself then?" To me it sounds like you're trying to talk yourself out of it. I had the exact same brand of self doubt prior to my egg fully cracking. It took a lot of being miserable and yelling at myself in a mirror before I finally discarded those thoughts and just decided to move forward. Easily the best decision of my life.
When it comes down to it, the only qualifier of whether or not you're trans is, "Am I trans?" If yes, then congrats, you're trans. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or says. It doesn't matter whether or not you're experiencing dysphoria. Literally nothing else matters. Ultimately, it is your decision to make.
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Trust me when I say that more than just myself here can say they certainly understand how you feel. When I first considered HRT, I was unsure as well because this is a major decision. One to not be taken lightly. However, with HRT, you will know if it’s right for you long before any permanent changes take place. This is what got me calmed down and let me decide to just go for it. It does take at least a couple months before anything starts happening that you can’t go back from.