Finally told my therapist about my ✨ gender feelings ✨ overall it went pretty well, not as bad as I feared (nothing ever is). He wants me to try things to see how I like it (although it kinda sounded like he wanted me to try more masc things but whatever). He also was kinda weird about me being attracted to women, and said that most of his trans clients are straight or bi, which seems odd to me but he did say some trans fems like women and that's fine and all that. But anyway the rest of it was good, a bit hard to catch up on everything and properly impress upon someone how I'm feeling when how I'm feeling changes all the time.
He did say that he felt like I never liked/cared about myself which is painfully true. But yea, I guess we'll see. It was really hard explaining myself when I don't even know what my goals are >.<
Edit: I know telling them seems like something you should just be able to do but I'd been really struggling to tell anyone so this is kinda big for me :ohnoes:
He also was kinda weird about me being attracted to women
potential red flag tbh
are you in any way dependent on the guy? Like, does the place you live require psychological gatekeeping such as recommendation letters for gender affirming care?
Yea I know :/ It was really disappointing to hear him say that. He was mostly good though.
I'm not sure. I'm in the states but can't easily find info on my particular state's laws for adults. Unfortunately, I am living at home and my family will be a far bigger hurdle anyway (if I even decide to get hrt). But its nice to talk about my feelings with someone anyway. And maybe I can get some small things like a blajah or something.
Edit: I know telling them seems like something you should just be able to do but I’d been really struggling to tell anyone so this is kinda big for me :ohnoes:
Congrats on telling someone. Definitely not something I consider easy (I'm still procrastinating directly saying something to my parents). Hopefully it works out well.
Finally told my therapist about my ✨ gender feelings ✨ overall it went pretty well, not as bad as I feared (nothing ever is). He wants me to try things to see how I like it (although it kinda sounded like he wanted me to try more masc things but whatever). He also was kinda weird about me being attracted to women, and said that most of his trans clients are straight or bi, which seems odd to me but he did say some trans fems like women and that's fine and all that. But anyway the rest of it was good, a bit hard to catch up on everything and properly impress upon someone how I'm feeling when how I'm feeling changes all the time.
He did say that he felt like I never liked/cared about myself which is painfully true. But yea, I guess we'll see. It was really hard explaining myself when I don't even know what my goals are >.<
Edit: I know telling them seems like something you should just be able to do but I'd been really struggling to tell anyone so this is kinda big for me :ohnoes:
potential red flag tbh
are you in any way dependent on the guy? Like, does the place you live require psychological gatekeeping such as recommendation letters for gender affirming care?
Big time. It's activating my flight or fight response rn.
Yea I know :/ It was really disappointing to hear him say that. He was mostly good though.
I'm not sure. I'm in the states but can't easily find info on my particular state's laws for adults. Unfortunately, I am living at home and my family will be a far bigger hurdle anyway (if I even decide to get hrt). But its nice to talk about my feelings with someone anyway. And maybe I can get some small things like a blajah or something.
You mean Blåhaj?
clearly I am not actually trans
might be dyslexic though
Congrats on telling someone. Definitely not something I consider easy (I'm still procrastinating directly saying something to my parents). Hopefully it works out well.
:meow-hug: thank you.
I definitely understand that, I have no idea how I'm going to broach it with them.