Sometimes I love my breasts and sometimes I hate them. I wonder what taking T will do to these feelings. I don’t really want to lose them right now but I also want to pass as man. Weird?
When the dysphoria is inconsistent Ideally you could have both "not lose them" and "pass as a man", I know binding is probably pretty annoying though...
Yeah binding sucks, I don’t even like wearing a bra. But at the moment it’s sufficient, I just wear clothes that hide my breasts. Maybe I will change my mind later on. Being able to swim without any top is kind of a dream
Anecdotally my enby friend took T for a while and stopped and still is planning for top surgery, but everyone's different ofc. I'd say its possible to some extent to both keep them and still pass like the other commenter says, I knew a really cool person like that until they moved to maine :(
idk how much it helps coming from someone going the other way but i found that a lot of my opinions on my body pretty rapidly changed after changing my gender identity. At first, I was pretty dead set on taking the no op route but literally the morning of my first HRT appointment I suddenly had second thoughts and now I'm tossed up between an orchi and SRS. Idk how far along you are but a lot of thoughts about myself have been pretty rapidly changing in the last 3 months. I wouldn't be surprised if you felt the same
I’ve heard that the transition process can really change ones perspective on surgery and stuff which is why I keep an open mind. I don’t worry about it, but it’s very silly to have these internal contradictions. I was also very sure that I didn’t want any surgery at first lol but now I’m definitely open to it.
A few years ago when I was definitely very cis I dug into the rabbit hole of gender affirming surgery for trans men and was super fascinated by how advanced the industry is. I’m sure it was just my innocent curiosity and that it doesn’t say anything about my internally hidden desires :)
I had very similar feelings for a while, and it’s only fairly recently that i’ve decided that i do in fact want top surgery (several years now into identifying as trans.) I haven’t started taking T yet, though I plan to soon in the future. for me, what I realized is that I liked the way I looked with breasts from an abstract aesthetic point of view but I didn’t feel connected to it. and like Estradoll, my experience with this stuff has changed throughout my experience of being trans. ofc this is just my own experience and idk how things are for you exactly. top surgery is definitely not required to pass as a man :)
breast talk
Sometimes I love my breasts and sometimes I hate them. I wonder what taking T will do to these feelings. I don’t really want to lose them right now but I also want to pass as man. Weird?
When the dysphoria is inconsistent
Ideally you could have both "not lose them" and "pass as a man", I know binding is probably pretty annoying though...
Yeah binding sucks, I don’t even like wearing a bra. But at the moment it’s sufficient, I just wear clothes that hide my breasts. Maybe I will change my mind later on. Being able to swim without any top is kind of a dream
Anecdotally my enby friend took T for a while and stopped and still is planning for top surgery, but everyone's different ofc. I'd say its possible to some extent to both keep them and still pass like the other commenter says, I knew a really cool person like that until they moved to maine :(
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idk how much it helps coming from someone going the other way but i found that a lot of my opinions on my body pretty rapidly changed after changing my gender identity. At first, I was pretty dead set on taking the no op route but literally the morning of my first HRT appointment I suddenly had second thoughts and now I'm tossed up between an orchi and SRS. Idk how far along you are but a lot of thoughts about myself have been pretty rapidly changing in the last 3 months. I wouldn't be surprised if you felt the same
I’ve heard that the transition process can really change ones perspective on surgery and stuff which is why I keep an open mind. I don’t worry about it, but it’s very silly to have these internal contradictions. I was also very sure that I didn’t want any surgery at first lol but now I’m definitely open to it.
A few years ago when I was definitely very cis I dug into the rabbit hole of gender affirming surgery for trans men and was super fascinated by how advanced the industry is. I’m sure it was just my innocent curiosity and that it doesn’t say anything about my internally hidden desires :)
breast talk! and some minor dysphoria discussion
I had very similar feelings for a while, and it’s only fairly recently that i’ve decided that i do in fact want top surgery (several years now into identifying as trans.) I haven’t started taking T yet, though I plan to soon in the future. for me, what I realized is that I liked the way I looked with breasts from an abstract aesthetic point of view but I didn’t feel connected to it. and like Estradoll, my experience with this stuff has changed throughout my experience of being trans. ofc this is just my own experience and idk how things are for you exactly. top surgery is definitely not required to pass as a man :)
Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to know that my experience isn’t that unique :)