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  • Chronicon [they/them]
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    6 months ago

    Hi gay friends in my computer mao-wave

    I'm glad we're back. It was a long day with no bear site. I was like 4.5 days late with my last E shot and I feel it. Still have changed very little about my presentation but I did wear a flower crown to the bar last night which was fun.

    less fun bits

    I don't know how to adapt my presentation when I can barely hold my current (kinda shoddy) look together most days, I've got the worst dandruff you've ever seen, and I'm literally too large for like 95% of mens clothing let alone women's. It also doesn't help that I'm really not convinced I want to be a woman, only not a man, and that I've got some serious self-hatred about my body/weight. All the cool or attractive people I see I just think that I'm nothing like them and never will be.

    • Thallo [she/her]
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      6 months ago

      also doesn't help that I'm really not convinced I want to be a woman, only not a man

      This is totally cool, and you can just be not a man if it suits you

      • Chronicon [they/them]
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        6 months ago

        I knowww but there's no script for that

        gotta figure out my own shit. Which I am but its slow going

        • Thallo [she/her]
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          6 months ago

          Actually, there is a script for that! You just have to find it. There are tons of people here who meet that description. Or, you could do some reading on other queer people's lives to give you some context.

          I'll give you a hack, though. Just love and accept yourself no matter what you are, and you'll get to the right place aubrey-happy

    • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]
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      6 months ago

      I have so much self-hatred and BDD about multiple things, so I get feeling like you’ll never belong or be good enough

    • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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      6 months ago
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      Very relatable. Not sure about dandruff specifically, but my eczema basically makes it where most of my skin surface flakes like that at times. Sometimes, simply sitting at a desk is enough to cover part of it in a layer of skin flakes...

      I hope you have better luck figuring out how you'd like to present and/or what your gender is than I've had.

      • Chronicon [they/them]
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        6 months ago

        Sometimes, simply sitting at a desk is enough to cover part of it in a layer of skin flakes...

        yep exactly what happens to me. I'm not hugely grossed out by it myself but it is... embarassing? My skin doesn't do it all over, mostly scalp and ears, but my siblings both have eczema so I assume mine's just milder

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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      6 months ago

      hi gay friend out of the computer kirby-wave

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      I don't have any advice but yea same issues here. A flower crown sounds fun though!

      • Chronicon [they/them]
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        6 months ago

        flower crown was great, my (surprisingly very straight and cis) friend made them for all of us since his yard is fully of daisies rn