Pics or it didn’t happen
ahahahha you cant trick me
i know all crushes are problematic :volcel-police:
runner up is some other white girl i worked with who fetishized black men to an extreme degree. would constantly talk about finding a nice dominican man to create mixed babies with. fucking weird. she moved far to the right during the pandemic - honestly probably could've seen that coming
I've never had a problematic crush in my life bc I am perfect and pure in every way
I developed crushes on three different ladies before finding out they were lesbian. Three times! lmao.
Half the serious crushes in my life have been for lesbians. Solidarity.
Haha I fall for asexuals a lot. Way above what would be average given chance
I’m also a member of the “50% of my crushes are revealed to be lesbians” club. :wtyp:
Ooh. So there was this guy from my club that I thought is cute and went out on a date with. At the time I was very lonely, was pre-srs and my self-esteem was two floors above the Earth core. He seemed to be fine with my transness, and we also seemed to hit it off, and really really quickly developed a very deep connection. Ok lets get into the problematic parts. He was still married, and because his wife wanted to separate, in the middle of the night he left for another country to give her some space... during which time he fucked everything that moved. He got incredibly clingy real fast, like I struggled to get a day off wher I didnt see him. At the time it was a little annoying but mostly charming. He was into BDSM (and actually introduced me to that, which is probably one of three good things that came out of this), but never really wanted to go to workshops with me. We were technically open, but he broke every single rule of engagement we had, and managed to repeatedly cheat. In an open relationship. He moved in with me early on, and even though he had a job, he was pretty much mooching off of me. He had a violent streak (never abused me, but it was there behind his eyes). Being with him was an absolute emotional roller coaster. When I caught him cheating I wanted to even fix things initially. In any case he absolutely refused to take responsibility or even apologize, or even do the tiniest gesture in showing that he is sorry. It kinda sucks because during the high moments of our relationship I really felt he might be the One for me. I was an absolute mess for more than a year after the breakup (of course COVID isolation and surgery recovery didnt help here). I remember waking up from surgery, and seeing he had sent me some dumb good wishes text and telling him to fuck right off. And it took me a long to recover, it sucked big time, but honestly it was the biggest growing Ive expereinced in my life, and it was partially responsible for my radicalisation - mostly with the realization to really look into the actions of someone, especially when they dont match the words.
eidt: Also for whatever reason everyone ever that ends up being interested in me is either in an open relationship or just broke up with their partner. Sometimes it really gets to me, cause it makes me feel like Im only ever good for being a side piece or a rebound fuck. Why cant I have a normal monogam-ish cool relationship with a stable partner like everyone else :cri: :cri:
:meow-hug: this was just supposed to be a Neera tanden appreciation thread. Hang in there. I know people who were rebounds who ended up married to that person. Life’s weird like that, but don’t discount yourself for any of those things
Damn. Sometimes I don't check when a thread is real or meant to be a bit.
Don't worry, your perfect person that you'll spend the rest of your life with is somewhere out there right now, and they're looking for you too. You just haven't crossed paths just quite yet, but that could change sooner than you think and when you least expect it. 🙂
Bernie Sanders holding my hand with his mitten. Not a crush it just sounds nice.
I dunno what the politics of Joanna Newsom are and I don't really want to find out.
woof, you just reminded my of my Joanna Newsom crush back when she put out her first album
It's very brave of you to admit that. And it's the first step to recovery.
I have a thing for camp counselors who play guitar and she sets off a false positive for me
She looks like she almost lost her virginity at church camp. I may have gone to church camp
I’ll start: Neera tanden
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Especially early 2010s neera on bill Maher
oh boy. i have an extremely bad one. i deserve to get thoroughly roasted. its just a massive disaster.
i was in an IRC for depressed/anxious/lonely people. people didn't like me much in there because i wouldnt stop talking about being sad all the time. id get kicked out a lot if i fought with the mods, but was never banned. one very late night i got to talking with someone, and we talked a lot that night...and over the next few days. i had a very quick crush on her, but i didn't know what she looked like. eventually our irc had a video chat together, and she came on and she is STUNNINGLY beautiful. my brain could not process it and i just didn't talk to her that chat because i was just looking at her all night.
anyway i was really into her but because of distance and because she was extremely depressed, she never wanted to actually meet. so because im so fuckin lonely i just went with the next best thing: hanging out with her as much as possible over video chats or voice chats, watching movies/tv together. she'd openly flirt with me, send me nudes, spend time with me. anything BUT date me. eventually we stopped talking and then a few weeks later she was acting weird in IRC one day, so i asked what was up, and she kinda doesnt say anything. instead i have to learn from SOMEONE ELSE, that she asked one of the guys out and wanted to meet him, and she was trying to hide it from me. i remember it being like 7pm, i was in my living room on my laptop and my parents were watching TV and i just wanted to cry but i couldnt, not in front of my parents. i was SO madly in love with her, and it broke me. she and her new BF disappear from the IRC.
a year later her BF comes back, saying they broke up and that SHE was abusive to HIM. then a few weeks later she comes back to IRC. i don't think either of them really apologized to me. eventually me and her get to talking a little bit again but we have a few too many public arguments with each other, just dumb stuff that mostly bothered me but never bothered her. biggest one was that i told her i was annoyed that all the guys in the IRC were just hitting on her because she's hot, and she got extremely mad at me.
but because i'm dumb and lonely i apologized and we talked a lot over the next few weeks. then out of nowhere her now ex-BF messages me saying she's fucking 3 guys and she's using me just like she did before. that gets my blood boiling, but she had been texting me telling me not to believe her ex-BF, he's just making stuff up to get to her. and so i calmed down, but once again we fought, because i didn't initially believe her. i guess they were both horribly abusive to each other. just constantly lying about each other and using me because they know i was so into her.
christ almighty man. this needs a fucking intermission. even cutting it down is not enough.
she apologizes, i half apologize and things are ok again. until theyre not (SURPRIIIIIIIIIIIIISE). eventually the IRC makes the switch to discord and we move and i hate it. for some reason one of the mods is now hitting on her but very sexually, she was talking about meeting one of the chat members IRL (one of the guys who apparently fucks everything, so i hated that idea) and it just would bother me, so i left without saying a word. i didn't want yet another public argument with her.
a year later, i get invited to a more private discord with cool people, including her and not including the mod or the guy she was apparently going to hang out with. we talk a little for the first time in a year, and...it feels like every little spark we had finally disappeared. i still talk to her a lot. she is one of the few people that kind of...LISTEN to what i'm actually saying, sadly.
i don't wish i was with her now, but its more...i wish i could rewind time and just not have fallen so hard for her, yknow? i'd be a lot happier. covid has delayed it but we apparently will meet for the first time in person when one of our IRC friends gets married, which is very very soon. terrified of that.
anyways all of this was because she's hot and i was lonely (h*rny). never again :)
Well, I'm glad you learned a valuable lesson in the end (never be horny).
i was in an IRC for depressed/anxious/lonely people
If I thought to myself "I want to take advantage of people", that's likely where I'd go 😔
This is why u should never use discord or fall for someone on the internet. Irl is much better. I too have made this mistake around like 50 times but never again for ur own mental health just delete discord and stop trying to find someone on the internet.
All of the girls I had crushes on in high school all turned out to be mormon, though that might've been because there were a lot of mormons in my high school.
Yeah, we have a lot of Mormons. This is helpful because no one steals my soda from the fridge
Land & STEM lord twink whose conservative mask slipped very quickly. Arguing the existence of systematic homelessness was a pretty big red flag that I tried to ignore...
A cute British boy I met while on a trip. I'm not sure what the British version of a gay Republican is called, but he was that.
Girl I worked with at a gas station. Foul mouthed button pusher with zero filter. I'm a fairly quiet and reserved dude. We were not at all compatible, yet somehow we actually worked together really well. She was constantly mean to me and getting me to do stuff for her. Apparently thats my thing because it only made me like her more. I don't know what's wrong with me. One time she called me and I drove 25 minutes to the next town over to help her do her laundry lol. After we stopped working together we'd see eachother like once every few months for a beer or something but he tension and awkwardness was always there. I could tell part of her really liked me but I was also very much not her type. Last time we hung out I drove her to her friends birthday party at a club like 60 miles away so she could drink and have fun. On the way home she barfed all over the side of my car and I haven't seen her since. Still think about her quite a lot even though I know a relationship would never work.
edit: I don't really like how this sounds like I am just talking crap about her. She is actually amazing and I've never met someone quite like her. Yeah she was mean to me but also I'm awkward and can be kinda clingy, I'm not proud of it but it goes both ways.
