When I was a kid all the adults in my life would say "You'd better shape up, people are gonna be a lot harder on you when you're grown up" but now other adults are much less likely to scream at me or threaten to smack me
It’s almost like they’re admitting they’re turning their trauma into abuse.
Plus people who are gung-ho about screaming at or hitting children aren't nearly as eager to do so against an adult who can tell them to fuck off or hit back just as hard. Funny how that works :bean-think:
When i was in elementary school one of the teachers aids just fucking hated me, and probably all kids but especially me. One time the actual teacher had us all sitting on the carpet in front of the white board, and i was quietly sitting next to my friend. The teachers aid demanded i move where i was sitting despite not disturbing anyone, i think i was just quietly fidgeting with something that set her off. I wanted to sit next to my friend to i quietly tried to scoot back to my original seat which really pissed her off and she took me into the hallway. As shes lecturing me i licked my lips a little bit cuz they were dry almost unconciously. She did not like this and accused me of sticking my tongue out at her, which i denied. She then told me im going to the principals office and i told her i just wanted to go back to class and started walking back into the classroom. She grabbed and pulled me off my feet and physically dragged me out of the classroom, making an exponentially larger disturbance than if i just fidgeted quietly with a rubber band like i wanted.
IF YOU FUCKING HATE CHILDREN FUCKING LEAVE THE SCHOOL SYSTEM!
Yeah myself and quite a few other kids were celebrating when she died of cancer, when children are celebrating your death it really says something about the kind of person you were.
It's always fucking fidgeting that sets the boomers off. I probably have undiagnosed ADHD on top of a spectrum disorder, so I fidget a lot, and I got in so much shit for it from boomers as a kid. Teachers, parents, anyone. Just let me stim in peace so I can actually do what it is you want me to do, dammit.
Around fifth grade i had so much fidgeting stuff in my desk, unbent paperclips, rubber bands, those triangle shaped erasers, clay my friend took from the art room, my desk was full of it. I had a substitute helper teacher once take my desk and dump everything in it into the trash, including all my school work, the actual teacher and one of my friends helped me pull it all out of the trash.
It always seems to be the classrom aid who is the worst and hates children, the actual teachers were generally nicer.
Teaching children to organise seems like a valuable skill. Even if it requires you to get your ass beat before the kids realise their power.
Lol yeah I am in my 30's and finally got a diagnosis for ADHD thanks to my GP being actually on the ball and talking with me about my anxiety instead of just sticking me on antidepressents (which now I have found out actually can make some adhd symptoms worse)
Anyway yeah school was shit. I remember once after being asked loads of times to focus and pay attention innocently asking my teacher (must have been what? 8 or 9?) How to pay attention and focus. Man that landed me in the shit.
Oh my god this took me back, the number of times kids with fucking underbites or whatever got screamed at for "sticking their tongue out"
Yeah, I've caught shit for that from bosses and teachers and shit too. I fucking roll my eyes when trying to remember something or thinking. It's not strange body language.
my parents would hit me for a variety of phrases, including "i don't know." they also told me shut up was a curse word
also I'm literally only learning just now as an adult it's not normal for your parents to scream and insult you, then beat you
i'm ok, thank you. I never realized it was abnormal until a few years ago so I'm kinda at peace with it.
Whenever I was growing up, and still now, whenever my mom was acting just insane and irrational and my siblings and I would ask her to calm down, those two words would trigger her so hard. She would explode
there is nothing you can say less effective at calming people down than telling them to calm down.
Yeah but we were just kids and trying to actually get her to calm down, she was crazy
I'm literally trying to imagine how to respond to being told "calm down" while I'm angry and I can't think of anything besides getting even angrier
if you aren't angry being told to calm down will make you angry as well
Never in the history of ever has ordering someone to calm down actually worked, yet it keep happening
Anyone else get that thing with their parents, teachers, and other various boomers where, if you questioned them in any way - whether to ask for clarification, question their motives, or defend your own actions - you got a smack or yelled at for "Talking back"? Cause man, that shit certainly fucked me up.
I’ve heard many stories from kids of parents slapping and beating or just threatening them for doing that
those parents should be drowned
Get ready to hear one more, my mom would slap my shit for rolling my eyes and at the same time say 'your eyes are going to get stuck like that'. My eyes going to get stuck like that from you slapping me ffs.
The fucking "I don't know? CAN you?" Trying to drag a fucking 'may I' out of me cause that's absolutely how contemporary adults spoke in the 1990s you child bullying pedantic fucks. Oh look at you, a middle aged adult with a teaching degree knows more about the finer parts of grammar than a five year old who has heard some said slightly incorrectly because literally everyone, including you Mme. Dentrement, say 'can I' and not 'may I' in regular conversation. You wouldn't correct that to other teachers if one came up to you and said 'can I have a bump of that awesome teachers lounge cocaine?'
:meow-cactus:
Okay, I do work with someone that is doing her teaching residence thing at an elementary school and working as a waitress at my work and she has to remember to switch from her normal voice which is actually pretty abrasive, server voice and talking to little kids voice. She seems like she's actually be a kickass elementary teacher but the code switches are real
Also, it's the worst kind of pedantry: wrong pedantry
Can means "may". It's one of the meanings
I remember winning a game of Scrabble because it turns out that word's been in the dictionary for a while.
one time got suspended for reading classic literature in my english class cause i was finished with the YA fiction they assigned :ohnoes:
sorry sweatie, you cannot learn anything unless it's on the test that evaluates whether or not I have a job next year
if im not devoting 9000% of my braincells to remembering what dude some tween girl kissed in a book am i even living for anything worthwhile
i got into an argument with my biology teacher. i had the audacity to say blood is not blue lol
this was the same teacher who got me to read the entirety of Where the Red Fern Grows aloud to the class. no I did not know how the book ends until I was told to read it for everyone
Every generation has put up with an insane amount of mistreatment from the generations older than them and I am excited that the cycle will finally end when the zoomers kill us all and eat our corpses as the world burns.
I got detention in 2nd grade (in the 90s) for saying that "sex" just meant whether you're male or female. The detention was for saying the word "sex"
Amongst all this. Big shout out to my parents for being pretty cool. We've had our issues but they always treated me with respect and like a human being. It would get me in trouble and gave me some weird adjustments with the world that did not grant kids the same basic decency, but it also gave me the backbone to eventually not take that shit
lol growing up in the 70/80s was a treat, let me tell you
Greetings, fellow Old. Remember the good ol' days when d_mn and h_ll were profane swear words?
Jesus this just overwhelmed me with emotions as I remembered a memory I haven’t though of in decades, being chastised in front of my friends for reading the ending epilogue (maybe, idk) text to DOOM on the family computer that included the world “hell” while my dad was nearby.
He was fucking pissed.
i do! remember when everyone lost their mind about the "underachiever and proud of it" t-shirts?
