I don't have any advice, but you shouldn't feel bad about wanting casual hookups 🤷 it sounds like that was fine with the group until just now. There's nothing wrong with having sex with multiple people (I mean, obviously. You're already in a poly). I hope you can work things out with your gf.
Also, I hate the backtracking thing. Say one thing, you agree to it, they walk it back and switch sides. Ffs just say what you mean and stick to it. Because (at least I feel) that if you go with the backtrack, they're still going to be upset. DON'T SAY THINGS YOU DON'T MEAN PEOPLE!
That's the thing about all this. It's very clear that she's sacrificing her core beliefs (which is strange to me considering we're poly) for my "happiness." It's like, which one do you want it to be? Either way, I'm not coming out on the other side of this tunnel feeling any good about this whole situation.
ngl, moments like this make me feel like she's either settling for me for whatever reason or using me for life stability. I really wish I could say this was the first time something like this has happened.
And thank you for the kind words as well. I hope that I can stop feeling shame over this whole ordeal. It's got me all fucked up.
I don't have any advice, but you shouldn't feel bad about wanting casual hookups 🤷 it sounds like that was fine with the group until just now. There's nothing wrong with having sex with multiple people (I mean, obviously. You're already in a poly). I hope you can work things out with your gf.
Also, I hate the backtracking thing. Say one thing, you agree to it, they walk it back and switch sides. Ffs just say what you mean and stick to it. Because (at least I feel) that if you go with the backtrack, they're still going to be upset. DON'T SAY THINGS YOU DON'T MEAN PEOPLE!
That's the thing about all this. It's very clear that she's sacrificing her core beliefs (which is strange to me considering we're poly) for my "happiness." It's like, which one do you want it to be? Either way, I'm not coming out on the other side of this tunnel feeling any good about this whole situation.
ngl, moments like this make me feel like she's either settling for me for whatever reason or using me for life stability. I really wish I could say this was the first time something like this has happened.
And thank you for the kind words as well. I hope that I can stop feeling shame over this whole ordeal. It's got me all fucked up.