Sadly avoiding my parents isnt worth 2/3 of my income, but hot darn I need some space for myself

    • TillieNeuen [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      Parks are your friend. They're one of the few places you're allowed to exist in public for free, and some of them have public bathrooms. (If not, they probably have some kind of port-a-potty situation. Bring hand sanitizer.) You can spend hours there if you're prepared. Wear headphones (they don't actually have to be plugged in to anything or playing anything) and hold a book (you don't have to actually read it) if you're worried about being left alone or looking like you're "loitering."

      • mwsduelle [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        As someone who also likes being alone, it's not the same. I need to be away from other people completely to fully unwind. Too many things moving around and distracting me in a space like that. I almost certainly have undiagnosed ADHD, though. It extra sucks that I'm homeless for the foreseeable future.

    • Bread_In_Baltimore [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      I don't live with my parents but I do live with roommates and I'm really feeling like I'm never alone. I'm planning on booking a cabin in the woods for a week so that I can just walk around in the trees and not see either people.

  • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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    I could start a whole pity party about how im trans and want space to explore my gender identity but im currently just upset that my sibling is coming home from college (shut down for covid after 2 weeks) and now I have to go back to sharing a room with someone at the age of Twenty Two. Its too bad how typical this is.

    • invalidusernamelol [he/him]
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      It's not really that great, rent and utilities suck. Unless your family is actively hostile towards you, it's better to just stick with them as long as possible.

      I had a 2br with my brother for a couple years then when he moved out, went through a few roommates for about a year and a half. Now he's back with my mom and I'm living with my girlfriend and her mom.

      Just a big long journey in a circle lol.

      Also the black mold in the apartment really fucked with respiratory system.

      • Lil_Revolitionary [she/her,they/them]
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        4 years ago

        Thats why its only a fantasy, cuz its absolutely unaffordable. My job actually still has upward mobility in it so maybe one day, but man, my income should allow something so simple

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      4 years ago

      just get a communist sugar daddy, worked for me

  • Lerios [hy/hym]
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    I don't know if it's feasible for you/your schedule (admittedly I was already somewhat predisposed to it), but what I did was just become nocturnal. My parents' alarm goes off at 8am, and I go to bed around 7:50am. You'll still be around them for a few hours a day, but it could make shit way more manageable. good luck comrade :heart-sickle:

    • Des [she/her, they/them]
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      4 years ago

      I did the same thing basically for like nearly 8 non consecutive adult years. my parents got into fights with me over it but i didn't care. it got easier as i got older. so glad to be in a shitty house of my own now.

    • edmoss49 [she/her]
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      4 years ago

      lmao this is exactly what I'm doing now that i'm stuck living with my folks for the forseeable future. It's like summer vacation again, except it's not fun and i wish it could end. That being said it gives me room to breathe, have alone time, write, watch movies etc. so it's not the worst thing in the world

  • BigBoopPaul [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    any kid in the future who watches "classic" tv sitcoms from the 90s is kinda be like, "wtf why was everyone rich?"

    • constantly_dabbing [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      “wtf why was everyone rich?”

      Fascism is an ideology for the petite bourgeois middle class who all have nice jobs working for imperialist corporations. Their privilege dies off when the rich get richer and the poor get poorer

  • abc [he/him, comrade/them]
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    4 years ago

    SAME SAME SAME SAME SAME FUCKING SAME AHHHHH I WANT TO ESCAPE MY ROOMMATES WHO DO NOT SHIT. WHY AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO MAINTAINS THE SHITTY LAWN AND DOES THE DISHES AND MAKES SURE THE TRASH AND RECYCLING IS PUT OUT FUCK WHY IS IT PROHIBITIVELY EXPENSIVE, EVEN THOUGH I GET PAID 2X MINIMUM WAGE IN MY SHITTY STATE, TO LIVE ALONE AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

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    I'm dumb and rented a studio in Denver that was $1800/month. It was like 400 square feet. It was nice but tiny.

  • SpoonOfTuna [he/him]
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    4 years ago

    Same here, I've been living at home for a year now and it's getting to me not having my own space

    • throwawaylemmy [none/use name]
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      4 years ago

      a year

      Look at this lib. Only living with their parents again for a year, not never getting out of the house. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA starts to cry