it's a very, very, very real feeling but at the same time, like. damn i'm out here getting an emotional beatdown by looking at an eight year old. this is some tier stuff
I'm putting this behind spoiler tags cause it can trigger others' dysphoria
Yeah. It's one of those things that just hurts. No matter what I do in life, I will never be able to experience what it's like growing up. And you know what? It fucking sucks.
The other thing that gets me real badly? Knowing that I'll never be able to experience motherhood. Seeing someone with their child just kills me. I'll never be able to raise a kid of my own. I'll never be able to experience pregnancy. And that fucking sucks too. Sure I guess I could adopt, but like, it's horrendously expensive and the laws aren't exactly friendly towards same sex/trans couples. Add on that I'm in my mid-30s and that shit ain't ever happening. Fucking hells.
Sure I guess I could adopt, but like, it’s horrendously expensive and the laws aren’t exactly friendly towards same sex/trans couples. Add on that I’m in my mid-30s and that shit ain’t ever happening. Fucking hells.
Hopefully you can get there anyways.
There's definitely a bias against LGBT+ couples and non-biological parents. I know my mom had to go through a lot with us. Her wife-at-the-time gave birth to us via IVF, so no adoption needed and they still had to go through a ton to prove they're "deserving" to be parents where other parents don't have to do anything except be fertile and have sex to prove they're parent-material. Things like income, showing they had a house already prepared for a child (before they'd even attempt IVF), etc. Fortunately, she was able to get custody of us (100%, not split) when there was a custody/divorce case, but like even her dad was telling her he'd traffic us to Mexico and raise us there cause there's no way a Texas court would side in her favor (she had already lost a child to a biological parent, but she didn't even have formal custody rights - she was just the one who raised the child for years when the parents decided to abandon her or something - idk my mom doesn't talk about it). But she never gave up. I don't think you should yet either.
Thank you. I appreciate it. It isn’t something I want to give up on, but my circumstances are heavily against it. Trans, lesbian, and poly. It’s unlikely the state would ever allow it. Guess we will see what happens when we stabilize financially.
it's a very, very, very real feeling but at the same time, like. damn i'm out here getting an emotional beatdown by looking at an eight year old. this is some
tier stuff
I'm putting this behind spoiler tags cause it can trigger others' dysphoria
Yeah. It's one of those things that just hurts. No matter what I do in life, I will never be able to experience what it's like growing up. And you know what? It fucking sucks.
The other thing that gets me real badly? Knowing that I'll never be able to experience motherhood. Seeing someone with their child just kills me. I'll never be able to raise a kid of my own. I'll never be able to experience pregnancy. And that fucking sucks too. Sure I guess I could adopt, but like, it's horrendously expensive and the laws aren't exactly friendly towards same sex/trans couples. Add on that I'm in my mid-30s and that shit ain't ever happening. Fucking hells.
I'm gonna go drown my sorrows now.
LGBT parents have it rough
Hopefully you can get there anyways.
There's definitely a bias against LGBT+ couples and non-biological parents. I know my mom had to go through a lot with us. Her wife-at-the-time gave birth to us via IVF, so no adoption needed and they still had to go through a ton to prove they're "deserving" to be parents where other parents don't have to do anything except be fertile and have sex to prove they're parent-material. Things like income, showing they had a house already prepared for a child (before they'd even attempt IVF), etc. Fortunately, she was able to get custody of us (100%, not split) when there was a custody/divorce case, but like even her dad was telling her he'd traffic us to Mexico and raise us there cause there's no way a Texas court would side in her favor (she had already lost a child to a biological parent, but she didn't even have formal custody rights - she was just the one who raised the child for years when the parents decided to abandon her or something - idk my mom doesn't talk about it). But she never gave up. I don't think you should yet either.
Thank you. I appreciate it. It isn’t something I want to give up on, but my circumstances are heavily against it. Trans, lesbian, and poly. It’s unlikely the state would ever allow it. Guess we will see what happens when we stabilize financially.