Like, obviously our situations are different, but like I didn't even wear facial hair and I look so fundamentally different from before I started transition. I don't get gendered correctly most of the time but hey I'm so much happier than before with who I am.
Generally, idt people will see you as a nasty pervert. It can definitely feel that way. I had every single fear you listed here before transition. I still have some of them around people not seeing me especially with family. But the way I've gotten past all of it is literally just like... Going and doing it, and realizing people don't care. People are so much more worried about their own lives than whatever you're doing.
I know you don't believe it's true but things will get better. There are no rules for this though and you can do it however you want. You can get on estrogen and start laser if you want. There's no timeline. Things will get better though.
Fwiw I know a girl who is 6'3 and quite large and she gets misgendered like one time a year. Turns out that having facial fat already built in actually makes you pretty andro. I saw a picture of her beforehand today and she's unrecognizable from what she looked like before
Really they will. If you happen to live in California lmk, we can get things like FFS covered through insurance which is a game changer. Same with laser hair removal and ofc hrt and stuff
I've definitely been there.
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Like, obviously our situations are different, but like I didn't even wear facial hair and I look so fundamentally different from before I started transition. I don't get gendered correctly most of the time but hey I'm so much happier than before with who I am.
Generally, idt people will see you as a nasty pervert. It can definitely feel that way. I had every single fear you listed here before transition. I still have some of them around people not seeing me especially with family. But the way I've gotten past all of it is literally just like... Going and doing it, and realizing people don't care. People are so much more worried about their own lives than whatever you're doing.
I know you don't believe it's true but things will get better. There are no rules for this though and you can do it however you want. You can get on estrogen and start laser if you want. There's no timeline. Things will get better though.
Fwiw I know a girl who is 6'3 and quite large and she gets misgendered like one time a year. Turns out that having facial fat already built in actually makes you pretty andro. I saw a picture of her beforehand today and she's unrecognizable from what she looked like before
This is so huge. It's a major breakthrough in anyone's transition tbh
It is genuinely unbelievable to me the transformations I've seen. I just can't imagine that being me.
I really hope so :meow-hug:
Really they will. If you happen to live in California lmk, we can get things like FFS covered through insurance which is a game changer. Same with laser hair removal and ofc hrt and stuff
Unfortunately I'm not, covering all that would be such a burden off my shoulders.
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