the lack of sigh emojis is a crime I don't know. Do you think that'd be the best way to go?
I am worried they won't be accepting/understand trans issues and when I get nervous I over explain. Maybe by saying its because I don't always like being a guy they'll understand that.
I think it would be a start, can keep it as vague as you want also if you don't feel like gutting yourself to your friends (though I think they'd understand y'know) But at least it'll be a first big step in the right direction
Not sure I'd consider it good advice, but you could just slightly modify your presentation in ways that clearly break norms for guys and make subtle (or not subtle) hints that your mom seems to somehow be oblivious to despite your stepmom seeming to pick up on it despite hearing a lot less direct "hints." Probably easier to just come out, but maybe you could turn it into a game of how direct you can be without one of them seeming to have any clue if they're as oblivious as my mom.
At least with my mom, I feel like coming out as a trans woman would be easier than using they/them pronouns. She doesn't respect other people's pronouns regardless and generally doesn't believe in gender, but she particularly refuses to use they/them because it "Goes AgAinst tHe ruLes of enGLish" even though she unironically writes like that.
Sadly it's common for there to be pushback on neo pronouns. I had trouble teaching some libs about the xenogenders and a load of other neo pronouns it felt like I was speaking gibberish to them. That server was a trip, last time I ever mingle with libs
Why don't you just start by asking for they/them pronouns? /gen
the lack of sigh emojis is a crimeI don't know. Do you think that'd be the best way to go?I am worried they won't be accepting/understand trans issues and when I get nervous I over explain. Maybe by saying its because I don't always like being a guy they'll understand that.
I think it would be a start, can keep it as vague as you want also if you don't feel like gutting yourself to your friends (though I think they'd understand y'know) But at least it'll be a first big step in the right direction
Not sure I'd consider it good advice, but you could just slightly modify your presentation in ways that clearly break norms for guys and make subtle (or not subtle) hints that your mom seems to somehow be oblivious to despite your stepmom seeming to pick up on it despite hearing a lot less direct "hints." Probably easier to just come out, but maybe you could turn it into a game of how direct you can be without one of them seeming to have any clue if they're as oblivious as my mom.
They're more of an online friend, but that's very funny.
At least with my mom, I feel like coming out as a trans woman would be easier than using they/them pronouns. She doesn't respect other people's pronouns regardless and generally doesn't believe in gender, but she particularly refuses to use they/them because it "Goes AgAinst tHe ruLes of enGLish" even though she unironically writes like that.
Sadly it's common for there to be pushback on neo pronouns. I had trouble teaching some libs about the xenogenders and a load of other neo pronouns it felt like I was speaking gibberish to them. That server was a trip, last time I ever mingle with libs