Yes, and it seems kinda wasteful to have to cook a full meal regardless of if they’re gonna eat it or not.

Maybe you could just start making simpler meals, serving leftovers from the meals they don’t eat, or even experimenting with different dishes you want to try and if anyone complains you can just tell them that they’re welcome to cook next time if they want? That way you’re still cooking so it makes them seem like the unreasonable ones and forces them to justify why you should do all the extra work. That said I have exactly 0 experience with chinese family dynamics so take that with a grain of salt.

Kinda reminds me of my grandparents, who aren’t progressive by any means, but one day my grandfather complained to my grandmother about a lunch she made for him so she literally never made another lunch for him again lol