just want to agree with other responses again and say this limitation you're putting on yourself seems very much self-imposed, because I think people here are just going to be happy for you (even if everyone's progress and situation is a bit different). I didn't see you talking about bottom surgery as droning on, I saw it as something good you were excited about. it is nice that you're mindful of other people's situations, but there doesn't need to be a guilt that you're doing well. after all, feeling lost after checking the big boxes of transition and another sense of loss you've been feeling and posted about are both completely valid and difficult to work through