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  • naom3 [she/her]
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    3 months ago

    Even taking your mother at face value, it’s really not healthy or productive for her to just bottle everything up for a month or two and then yell at you. But to be honest none of the complaints you’ve mentioned actually sound like a big deal. Like sleeping in and having to be reminded to make dinner every now and then isn’t the sort of thing that buries itself into your mind and builds until you have a breakdown you know? It kinda seems like she’s just using those things as excuses to be mad. Also, you’re right, trying is all anyone can really do. It’s not your fault that certain things are harder for you, and if your mother has unrealistic expectations then that’s on her.

    Also

    has less demands for your brother

    brother meets the demands more easily

    shocked-pikachu

    • khizuo [ze/zir]
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      3 months ago
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      Whenever my mom gets angry at me she always tells me that she's actually really lenient on me and her expectations should be easy to meet, so actually it's my fault for not being able to meet her easy and lenient expectations. But they're so hard for me... I just can't always wake up early with consistency or go make dinner without being asked. But my brother is able to wake up early and participate in the breakfast-making ritual (which is very little work in comparison to cooking dinner) so my mom thinks that I should be able to as well.

      Thanks for the support. I just, I don't know.

      • naom3 [she/her]
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        3 months ago

        The reality is that all anyone can do is try their best, and if you just can’t do something then it’s unreasonable to expect it of you. Like, imagine being asked to grab something off a shelf that’s too high for you to reach. It doesn’t matter how hard you try or easy it is to just pick up things or how little anyone else seems to struggle to reach it, you just can’t do it and it’s unrealistic to keep expecting you to be able to.

        And the thing is, you’re genuinely trying! I know how much you hate cooking (for good reason, it’s not fair to make you do all the cooking), but even then you haven’t said you’re trying to get out of cooking, just that you sometimes need to be reminded about it, and it really sucks that instead of recognizing that and acknowledging how hard you work to feed everyone your mom focuses on the parts that you need help with and tries to twist it around into you being lazy