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I would say it ain't happening and again flat out not engage lol If someone made demands of me they would be sorely disappointed, I am not a people pleaser, I don't need people to validate my existence. Very few bother with me or engage with me on any level to where I would want to bother with. I won't engage with anything that makes me miserable.
I know what I enjoy so if I don't want to lose my time I won't engage with those specific activities. Reading would be one where I can read a book in a day if I feel like it because it would be my sole focus. I can forget everything around me and be so focused I can't hear.
Ditto for the most part. My family has ADHD and can be very draining at times tho.
I can get into a flow at times, but to read a lot is a very intentional activity that can be difficult, and my ADHD gets mad I can’t finish things in two seconds or am at least a notably fast reader (I know hyperlingual people and I’m kinda normal speed). My surroundings mostly vanish when my thoughts and internal echolalia are particularly loud or if I’m on social media or something (my most frequent hyperfocus).
Yeah I can see how that could make things difficult.
I take my time in all things, but I can be fast at what I do too. Depends on the activity, I'm thorough in everything I do. I can disappear so to speak if I'm hyperfocused into something to where I don't hear anything else and need nudged out, can be annoying for me and anyone else so I try not to get too deep into my work.. I don't do social media, I do my own things.
I can’t stand slowness unless it’s in the form of rebellion or being fast otherwise stresses me out. My thoroughness depends on the mood.
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In seriousness my habits aren’t great but unless I’m really compulsive they do the job of helping me cope. I should read more, but that’s not as spoon fed.
I wouldn't say I'm slow, I just take my time. I understand the need to rush and such and how that can affect people needing to change topics or activities.
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I just like doing my own thing and act on whim basically. Though I have routines I follow and I live with my wife so a lot would be around her too.
Same :3
for me it depends on the reading...
someone is making me read it? hell no, i can't even open the book (i couldn't finish college due to this...)
it's too cishet? uggh, i'll go super slowly
it's queer, involves vampires (apparently?)? 1.5 books per day
Real. Tho occasionally I can get into what I’m forced to read. I’m not reading anything on my own time unless it feels valuable. I’d probably enjoy it but most fiction doesn’t seem to have as much intellectual value, thus I can’t justify it against impatience. I was once the kid who the teacher had to tell “put away the book” to though.
i hope you don't mind me asking ... i think that the times i've enjoyed my life the most are the times i've lost track of time and gotten hyperfixated on something interesting. is that not your experience?
Oh I enjoy things but I'm aware that I can lose myself in things if I enjoy it and like to not disappear into them. So I restrict myself to some degree.
wait, i think i follow! sorry i missed "if I don't want to lose my time"
I tend to read a lot of naughty words too because of my dyslexia but sometimes I miss words too, don't worry about it ^^