hey no problem buddy

hey don't sweat it pal

take it easy big guy

etc, etc

  • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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    4 years ago

    I was reading a really fascinating book that had a section of toxic masculinity. Did you know men are 7x more likely to get struck by lightning? There is no good explanation for this. People say it's because men work more dangerous and outdoor jobs but that makes no sense; workplace safety wouldn't have people working in the thunderstorm.

    Turns out the answer is super simple, men are big tough guys who aren't allowed to be scared of a little rain...

    The book had a lot more interesting stuff to say about how toxic masculinity is ingrained from the second we're born so yeah sad stuff

    • Multihedra [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      As someone who worked outside... I can tell you that the only time it was OK not to work was when a workplace safety person from corporate was around. In the words of the boss, “they make the guys nervous and that makes accidents more likely; it’s worth the lost productivity to not have to deal with someone doing something wrong in front of the safety guy”

      I don’t doubt that toxic masculinity is involved, but I also don’t want to give the impression that workplace safety isn’t a joke

      • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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        4 years ago

        Point conceded. I haven't worked that type of job so I don't have first hand experience.

        • Multihedra [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          Nah, you’re half right, it’s not total upton Sinclair shit. Just wanted to bitch about my ridiculous boss a bit :)

          • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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            4 years ago

            Lol I feel that. I think you are right tho, ignoring safety regs is probably part of why men get struck more. Tbh when I first read it I was skeptical too because might not men being taller on average play a part it in too?

            Ultimately I think toxic masculinity is still a main cause.

            Another point the author made, she cites this but I didn't actually check the source, is that there is no medical reason men should live significantly shorter lives on average than women. She attributes this to toxic masculinity as well.

    • 420sixtynine [any,comrade/them]
      hexagon
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      4 years ago

      men are big tough guys who aren’t allowed to be scared of a little rain

      to be fair I would totally beat rain in a fight

      • Electrickoolaide32 [he/him]
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        4 years ago

        Yo I’m being serious right now, if I’m walking down the street and I see rain coming the other way....that shits on sight.

    • SteveHasBunker [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      Turns out the answer is super simple, men are big tough guys who aren’t allowed to be scared of a little rain…

      Is it weird that I actually like going out for walks when it's rainy, provided it isn't too cold out? I find rain relaxing.

      • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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        4 years ago

        I'm a big rain fan myself but I like to enjoy it from my covered deck.

        Sadly yes, this does mean you are toxic 😔

      • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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        4 years ago
        trigger warning

        https://www.versobooks.com/books/2922-rape I picked it up in the verso book sale over new years.

        What I really liked about it is that it traces how the west has conceptualized rape through history putting everything into context.

        There is a chapter specifically about men and in there a sub chapter that basically covers toxic masculinity. One thing is how we have internalized rape in the west makes us see men’s bodies and male physical contact as inherently sexual. I’d be happy to go back and re read it so I could explain it better if you’re interested! :::

      • PlantsRcoolToo [any]
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        4 years ago

        How do I do the spoiler/trigger warning thing?

        Because I should use that before I talk about the main topic of the book