This was in my high school and early college years, later on in life I was able develop romantic relationships with them and healthy platonic relationships. I’ll be upfront and say a lot of the times if a straight dude hates women vehemently, it’s probably because he’s not getting laid or able to form any semblance of a romance with a woman.

    • Leonadas445 [he/him]
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      4 years ago

      That’s not what I’m trying to say. I meant it more like I was resentful of them because of my inability to have healthy relationships with them and I blamed them when the onus was on me becoming a healthier and more mature person. You can still disagree, I’ve just found it often to be the case that dudes who don’t know how to interact with women or people period become very resentful without fixing personality issues they themselves have.

      • queenjamie [none/use name]
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        4 years ago

        You can still disagree, I’ve just found it often to be the case that dudes who don’t know how to interact with women or people period become very resentful without fixing personality issues they themselves have.

        And unfortunately they end up turning to things like PUA or other "red pill" stuff. IMO there does need to be some kind of leftist dating advice for young men because telling an awkward guy who can't get a date to "be himself" is like a capitalist telling a perpetually unemployed, downwardly mobile young person to "hustle."

        • Leonadas445 [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          Yeah never went down that road of PUA redpill. By good graces I’m fairly good looking and tall, so for me I just had to stop acting like an asshole and a creep and that helped immensely. Other dudes need a little more help or they do end up in those dangerous communities.

          I don’t know all the answers as to how we fix this. As you’re right, simply telling someone ‘be yourself’ is not enough, it’s more complex and the help needed is more complex.

        • hogposting [he/him,comrade/them]
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          4 years ago

          there does need to be some kind of leftist dating advice for young men

          The good news is that -- like with any specialized school of self-help thought -- the less-desirable dating advice canon has a bunch of "common sense" stuff that you can separate from the shittier elements without extreme effort.

        • grilldaddy [she/her]
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          4 years ago

          another day, another off-putting nintendude post 🤷‍♀️

        • Leonadas445 [he/him]
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          4 years ago

          I don’t know what to tell you, I’m sorry. I was not a good person back then. It took fixing of issues that had with myself to steer me right and realize I’m not owed women’s bodies.

          I had a flawed perception, I can’t like turn back time and change that, I can only move forward and be the best person I can be and treat people like human beings