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  • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]
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    2 months ago

    I lived as a transwoman from ~2020-2022 and then detransitioned out of my own volition. My family and friends were supportive, it just didn't feel quite right. Living as a trans woman felt the same as a cis man, except it took a lot more effort to present female than male (especially since I'm quite tall), so I went back to being a cishet guy.

    But I'd be lying if I said I'm 100% confident in my gender identity. I don't think I'll ever transition again, but maybe I'll try drag at some point.

    • Thallo [love/loves]
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      2 months ago

      Was it a worthwhile experience? Would you still tell your past self to go through with it or would you say skip it?

      • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]
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        2 months ago

        I don't regret it, I learned a lot about myself and gained new perspectives. My past self would probably need to experience it themselves, if only to quiet down the "What if...?" thoughts.

    • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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      2 months ago

      :waow-based:

      Pretty cool of you. I wonder how many people could live completely fine either way.

      What was your experience with gender euphoria/dysphoria? If you don't mind me asking.

      • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]
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        2 months ago

        I enjoyed presenting female while in full makeup and nice clothes, but idk how much of that was gender euphoria and how much it was just feeling pretty regardless of gender. I felt dysphoric when someone called me by my female name while I wasn't dressed up (i never started HRT so my body was and is still 100% male).

        If I could snap a finger and turn into a 5'8" cis girl I'd probably be closer to how I really feel, but the way I look at it is that I'm like 60-65% on the female side on the gender binary (idk if that's the right terminology but you get the idea). Presenting female as a 6'3" AMAB person is just a ton of effort and since detransitioning I have 100% fewer people stare at me on the bus and yell at me in public. shrug-outta-hecks

        • BountifulEggnog [she/her]
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          2 months ago

          That's interesting, thanks. Did you want hrt or just not really feel like it?

          But presenting female as a 6'3" AMAB person is a ton of effort and since detransitioning I have 100% fewer people stare at me on the bus and yell at me in public.

          :yea: can't wait. Glad you don't mind going back to presenting masc, trying drag might be fun though!

          • UmbraVivi [he/him, she/her]
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            2 months ago

            I didn't feel like it because I wasn't 100% sure. Also my face already has somewhat feminine features, my biggest hurdle to passing were my height and my voice and HRT wouldn't have helped with either of those.

            • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
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              2 months ago

              I didn’t feel like it because I wasn’t 100% sure.

              I'm curious how many would say they were 100% sure when they first started HRT. I know some people who say things like "I wasn't really sure until like a year after starting", which seemed weird to me at the time, but I might be on that path myself.

              my biggest hurdle to passing were my height

              Its unfortunate how many trans women have that problem. We just need to make cis women taller, so in 20 years, 6'3" seems normal for women!